It started before he walked in the door.  I prepared dinner in the afternoon for 3 people, not 4 as I usually would on a Tuesday .   At 4pm he sent me an email asking me not to cook dinner for him tonight - he'd been at a luncheon.  "Bugger," I thought to myself as I deleted the email.

He arrived after 6:30pm, I watched him walk from his car to the door, I listen as he turns the key. 
I wait as he entered,
"Hi," he cheers at my son and I.
"Hi," I reply, then quickly add in a defensive tone "DO YOU MIND knocking before you just walk in?"
"No, I don't mind knocking." He replies in a condescending tone.

Sensing my mood he walks straight past me to the family room where my daughter is watching tv.
I wait a minute or two then walk out to where he's sitting with her.

"Is there something you need to tell us?" I ask glaring at him - I couldn't help it I was boiling inside.
"Uh, umm" he says acting dumb.
"Something you want to tell YOUR FAMILY." I say emphasising the family bit.
"Something everybody else already knows." I add staring him right in the eyes.

He turns his face away from me, and replies
"KELLIE, I am not prepared to discuss this in front of the children."

"Why Not?" I interject, "They are part of this family, they want to know what's going on too."

Once again he repeats
"KELLIE, I SAID, I am not prepared to discuss this in front of the children."

Fuming I dish up the kids tea and throw mine out to the dog, I suddenly dont have an appetite.  He sits down with them at the table - I walk outside counting to 100 very slowly.

The two hours goes fairly quickly, and finally we put the kids to bed.

He comes out, and I have my shackles up.

We get into it straight away, he tells me the reason I am the last (my words) to know he's engaged to his mistress is because he wanted to tell me to my face. 

I rebutt that if that was the case he should have come over last week to do that - not leave it a week. (He got engaged last Wednesday - and this conversation was on the following Tuesday).

He says he has the right to do it in his OWN time.  I point out that it is NOT ALL About HIM and there are others involved.

I rebutt that if the children and I were in anyway important to him, and he didn't want to hurt me further he should have taken the time out to come and tell us - once again BEFORE everybody knew.  I ask why he couldn't confirm it when I texted him - he shrugs and says I wanted to do it in person.

He says that he wanted to do it in his own good time and its not his fault that somebody else told me first!
To which I point out that putting it on FACEBOOK is hardly a private arena.

He just goes over again how it's his right to tell me in his own time!  I explain that it appears he has little regard for me or his kids because he's left us to last. He asks why I keep raising the point - I tell him because it doesn't appear that he's listening.
He disputes this by telling me to "Get F**ked!"

I then ask him is she pregnant - He scoffs and says that BS.
I point out that he stated after we had our second child that he doesn't want anymore kids - but JS does - I suppose you are having them with her now.
He says not necessarily.  Problem here is that JS has been telling everybody at their work that she can't wait to have them.
He rebutts this - I ask him very calmly
"How well do you know her?"
"What," he replies, so I repeat again very calmy,
"How well, do you, really know her?"
He has no response at first, then says
"What's that got to do with anything?"

I raise the point that he told me when he first left that he just needed time to think - and would Probably be back before I knew it.  I raise about the rumours he's with her, and the facts that support that. (all mute points now).

The fact that he said she was "Just a friend" and she's "Quite Immature", and they'd never be more than friends.  I point out that they went from finally  admitting they were seeing each other from NOVEMBER 2007 to now being engaged 3 months later.

He answers "Well, its like I just know she's THE ONE."

This really hurts - so I said "Oh but I WAS THE ONE - you married me! Till death do us part."
to which he replies - Yes but that doesn't mean you stay together - things happen, you know that.

I argue at him and tell him YES but you don't JUST WALK AWAY - you TRY.
He tells me we've been over this and I need to get over it.

I'm P*ssed off now, I ask him when he lost his conscience, I ask him what is it that I did, to justify him hurting me? 
He says I did nothing - it just happened. 

I point out that we are not even financially settled yet, neither are we divorced.

I say he should have waited until after we are divorced to do this (this would be April 2008).
He says what's it matter? it's a forgone conclusion.

I point out that him getting engaged before we are Divorced - no matter how much of foregone conclusion it is, its disrespectul to me and our marriage.  And he lacks any respect or care for me and our children.
He tells me to "Get F**ked".

I'm getting pretty angry at this stage and so I tell him
"No, you Get F**ked, You are an Arsehole,"

I go on to say that he's never here, and he has replaced me with her, and now he's going to replace his existing kids with new ones, like a set of golf clubs.

He says "Get F**ked" again - obviously I'd hit a sore point.

I say Actions speak louder than words and point out that after this week-end - (when he's going to a wedding and not seeing his kids all week-end), that it will be ONE saturday in FIVE that he's seen them.
I tell him accept that things may come up - but if he's busy on the Saturday then he needs to make time to see his kids on the Sunday? Or maybe have them overnight one Friday!

He disputes his lack of parenting and comes back with - I've seen them tonight I saw them last Tuesday night, and the one before and I'll see them next Tuesday night.

This makes me mad, and I start getting smart and very sarcastic
"Oh you are such a great father, 2 hours per week - that's so generous," I spit out
"You know in fact I think that does make you FATHER OF THE YEAR (FOTY)", then I go in my smart arse tone,
"Actually I think we should upgrade you to FATHER of THE CENTURY," I finish by glaring at him.

Once again - he says "GET FUCKED".
I'm tired of him telling me this - so I say it back and point out I am the one that have to keep the kids stable, I'm the one that has pick up the pieces he leaves when he goes.

He obviously has no comeback and says "Fuck this - I'm going - Good bye" and he walks out the front door and speeds off.

Meanwhile I realise our kids were listening in the hallway - unbeknowns to me.
They come rushing out at me smiling and excited.
"Did you tell Daddy Off?" Master 4 asks.
"Mum well done," says Miss 8, "But you shouldn't have used swear words. You should stick your finger up instead." she says.

I think OH NO! This is the last conversation I wanted them to hear - then they tell me that FOTY STILL didn't tell them he is going to marry JS!