Master 5 has kinder on Mondays 1pm - 4pm.  This is right in the middle of my working day.
So my Dad & Mum have him on the days where my Dad can drop him to kinder (my mum doesn't really drive much since her aneurism 10 years ago) and I have a friend whose son goes to the same Kinder, look after him from 8:30am until the session commences at 1pm.

Lately my friend has been "complaining" about Master 5 and things that have gone on between the boys.  Which I believe her, but she makes out like Master 5 is the only one always "doing/saying" these things.

Like telling her "angel son" that he doesn't like his toys, and she says Master 5 has broken some of his toys! This really surprises me, because he is NOT an intentionally destructive child.

She tells me how my son won't speak to her, and has on occassion told her "She is not the boss of him".
She claims Master 5 has told her son he doesn't like him!

I have once or twice encouraged Master 5 to play with this boy at kinder (when I'm there) and this boy has turned around to Master 5 and said "I hate you, I don't want to play with you."
They are 5 years old, so it's expected they won't be polite, but I just thought to myself .... "Nice".

Some of the things she's mentioned that Master 5 has said, just aren't in his regular phrases.  So it gets a bit frustrating listening to her tell me these things. Which mind you are often things that her son has told her he's said.  So ....

Now don't get me wrong here, I am extremely grateful to this friend for doing this for me, but I'm starting to regret it big time!  I have bitten my tongue, but today she tells me at pick up that Master 5 told her he didn't like being at her house, and she tells me that she told him that he didn't have to come, but he'd miss Kinder if he went to his Nana's.

I know she was directing this to me, not him!

Now I've just about had enough, I feel like doing exactly that, that is taking him to my Mum and Dad's only and if my Dad can take him good, but if he can't well .. too bad.

This friend is an insecure person, and I know she's treated badly by her Mum, Sister and Sister-in-law and does have low self esteem, so I tread carefully.  And I don't forget that she's doing me a HUGE favour.  I am just not sure if I can remain tight lipped about the kinder favour if this goes on.  My first plan of attack is to speak to Master 5, and continuously tell him how important it is for him to be kind and polite when he is at their place.

See Master 5 is a very free spirirt, he's the kind of kid that can play with anybody/anything.  He doesn't have set buddies.  So when her son wants to play with him, he'll play but he won't restrict it to what this boy wants.  Master 5 actually has a few of the other little boys there follow him around, probably because he is so confident and carefree.  But he can also be quite stubborn, sullen, un-cooperative .. standard I believe for a 5 year old.

Her son is not so carefree, he craves attention and will often say he is not well so his Mum comes back early for him.  Which I feel sorry for both of them to have to deal with that.  But I wish she'd stop comparing our two and take it for what they are.
She seems to "stress" about every small detail, which makes me "stress" a bit too.

I don't need anymore stress than I have, and I know these things go in phases so I'm hoping this is just one, I'm just wondering though if this actually Master 5's phase, or whether it is my friends phase!