Honestly my ex is a Frickin loser.... he makes me soooooooooooo MAD!
He comes tonight, lets himself in with his key ....., announces he's arrived with a big cheery
"Hello Everybody." sits down eats the dinner that I've cooked him (I know I'm obviously an idiot or a sucker or something). Then plays with the kids for 40 mins, while I do the dishes..  Then we put them to bed, then announces he's going to leave.

As we near the front door he turns to me and asks, whether I was serious that I wouldn't go to his Mums (2nd) Wedding if his girlfriend was there.

Is he STUPID or just an insensitive arse-hole?? I've been part of his Mum's life for 20 years, this woman who he now admits to dating/having sex with/seeing  has only been part of their lives since November last year. Not to mention her Grand-children who he's also abandoned to be with this woman!

I calmly tell him that YES!! I am serious, and my reason is that it would make me feel totally uncomfortable, and our daughter (Miss 8) has also mentioned it a few times .... and she seems anxious about it.

I suggest that our previous conversation about this should have given him the answer he needed. 
He goes on to ask WHY I would be uncomfortable, to which I ask

Why would I be happy to be in the same venue as my ex husband with his MISTRESS who actively pursued him while he was still married to me!?  And now they are all lovey dovey in public - no more sneaking around hiding their fucking activities!!!

Of course this gets him angry - you see he likes to deny there was anything between them (him & JS) until after he'd moved out  - even though he admitted they got drunk and had a one night stand in the last 6 months of our marriage. Just for the record he even denies admitting that now.

So he tells me then maybe she won't be there, but he'd let me know......... I ask him doesn't it matter that it will make me uncomfortable?  He's pauses and says 'oh yer, I guess it matters.'
"So she's not going to be there then??" I ask.
"Probably not, but I'll let you know." He answers.

The conversation goes around for a few minutes, as I explain the effect this all has on his daughter - he plays dumb says he didn't realise, and why won't she talk to him about it - DAHH he's never around, and plus he treats her like a 4 year old, not the mature 8 year old she is.

Then I ask him why he doesn't let me know anything concerning visiting the kids - like when he went to Queensland with JS - and he tells me the day before that he's going the next day for 2 weeks or so.
Doesn't tell me when he's getting back - just calls Miss 8 to say hi and he'd see her on the Saturday.
He apologises.  I ask him if he has any other "SURPRISES" for me - to which he answers - No of course not, like what.

So I go on to how in the past year, he's pulled the rug from under me - by walking out.  And how he says him & JS are JUST FRIENDS, and now they are BOYFRIEND and GIRLFRIEND.... and the "surprises" that his solicitor has pulled. 

He tells me there is nothing that he's not telling me and he's sorry again for not being upfront about the holiday.

Anyway Miss 8 & Master 4 have been getting up during our conversation - which made it quite a broken argument - not as much impact on the punches thrown really.

As he's leaving I say " You really don't give a Shit about what you've done to me do you.?"
to which he answers very smarty - "Actually, you know I do!".

I say "whatever, BYE, " and walk inside.

So I go down to check on the children, cause his visits always leave them longing for him to move back in etc etc.  Sure enough they are upset, so I console them and tell them it's alright, yada yada yada all the things that make them feel secure etc. etc.  Miss 8 says why can't he move back in. . . I suggest she have that conversation with him SATURDAY when he comes to pick them up ..... then she could've blown me over with a feather.
Apparently he'd told her he wasn't coming on Saturday, because he's going on a GOLF week-end away with work!!!!!!!

My Blood boiled - he didn't mention it to me - after I berated him about not giving me details about his Holiday, and saying how I know I don't have a right to know what's going on in his life - but where it concerned the kids - he needed to tell me..... as I said HE apologised and said I was RIGHT that he should tell me..... and here it is not even 5 minutes later - I find out he's done it again!

So I call him up - and of course he ignores my call - knows my number - so I leave him a message saying I need to clarify something with him.

He calls me back, I ask him if he was going away for the Week-end, he answers YES, and I blast him ... well I didn't but I should have - I had just got through telling him he needed to tell me when he wouldn't be seeing the kids, and it wasn't good enough for him to tell them at the last minute.....

and I'm sorry for my language here - but he FUCKING didn't tell me - did he think I'd guess when he didn't arrive on Saturday?  After I'd made plans for the day.

He apologises - I don't know why he bothers - I say yer right whatever and hang up.

THIS GUY IS A COMPLETE AND UTTER PIG! 

I don't get how he can be like this - so stubborn and treat us like Crap.  I think I've under estimated him - he's not FATHER of the YEAR.... He's FATHER of the CENTURY! (FOTC). 


All he cares about is JS - and I'll bet he's even taking her on his Annual golf week-end away - strangely enough - I was never allowed to go!

What a jerk, what a lousy ex-, what a REAL FOTY  ... FOTC!