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I've been on thoughts since the end of December '07.
Believe it or not, I didn't really come on to blog about foty.
I initially came on to blog, because the guy I had been having a "fling" with had just gone overseas with his ex-girlfriend. We'd had a very hot and steamy month together. He reminded me what it felt like to be treated like a lady. And he knew exactly how to do it!
He has his own blog site, not like here on thoughts. He hosts his own. He blogged his trip as he was travelling on his 5 week holiday. The first two weeks all was great. But gradually the contact deteriorated. I knew he was back with his ex. They'd been broken up 6 months, and before that they'd dated for 9 years, and lived together for 6 of them. They had a house together. . . . I know ... I know ... alarm bells!
I couldn't hear them, I was in LUST! lol
So like many of you, I googled "Free Blog"
and found
THOUGHTS.com
I started blogging anonymously.
New Years Eve, my first without my (ex) husband was particularly hard.
I had friends over, drank WAY TOO MUCH Vodka and in our summer heat, I was what you could definitely term WASTED.
The next day I started blogging in earnest and it all came out. You are welcome to read back if you want to see the difference in me. Anyway Instead of telling friends all the things Foty was putting me through I blogged it.
I figured I was tired of telling 5 people the same thing,
so I'd blog it to get it out.
Most of my friends stopped asking.
Except 2, and one was Kaybee.
The other joined and is still an in-active
member of Thoughts.com
but she just doesn't believe.
The other night Kaybee and I were out,
and we'd had a bit to drink.
We started discussing Thoughts.com
in front of NON-BELIEVERS.
These people are ones we love, and can trust.
But the response of one astounded me.
"Oh is this is your FANTASY WORLD?"
I was too drunk, too relaxed to stick up for all you guys. . .
so I just laughed and repeated ;
"FANTASY WORLD ... OH RIGHT."
I was joking around, but it's bothered me ever since.
So I want to call out all of you
who are NOT REAL.
Can you please tell me,
because I'm convinced there are
REAL PEOPLE in here.
I am convinced that the tears I read about are REAL,
not made up or FANTASY.
I am convinced that
Young STANLEY THOMAS
is an actual baby and
not some figment of the THOUGHTS.Com imagination.
Oh and the poetry I read, and the great posts,
don't tell me they are FANTASY Too??
I have shed real tears in here, I have found amazing friends
and some I even consider like family.
Don't tell me know it's all MAKE BELIEVE???
Does anybody else have non-believers in their midst?
Next they are probably going to tell me the
TOOTH FAIRY
doesn't exist either.....
but that's another story.
Easy in FANTASY Costume ... out
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Posted by EasyToSay on 2008-07-15 08:32:44 | Rating: | Views: 385
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Oh Easy, this place is real. The friendships you've formed are real, and it doesnt get any realer than this. Because here, we know each other through our rawest of emotions, this is where we've gotten to know the really real people, people without the facades. These are true friendships because we've truly seen people cry and laugh, and felt their joy and pain. This is as real as it can get. Dont let the non believers bring you down. I guess its not something you can believe unless you experience it. So I'm standing up...I'm real :)
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Posted by angelwings
on 2008-07-15 08:40:43
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I forgot to say angel...out :)
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Posted by angelwings
on 2008-07-15 08:41:27
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LOL... Thanks Angel .. you make me smile, actually no you don't make me, I just do because you are such a REAL beautiful friend :) .... E out! :)
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-07-15 08:43:36
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Ohhh dammm are you telling me that you aren't some sperwomen in costume, and fights this nasty mean villian. Ohhh bugger.
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Posted by KP
on 2008-07-15 08:53:33
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Ohhh and on a personal note, I like the real you too. Ohhh and I am real too, so I guess will stand up too. Mybe we could form a conga line.
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Posted by KP
on 2008-07-15 08:54:30
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*standing up* I think I'm real, am I dreaming? *ouch* ok I pinched myself, I'm real. I don't discuss thoughts with anyone just because I don't really talk to anyone. lol sad, huh? But this place is like a home to me and no one can tell me it's not real. I've felt more REAL feelings here then I have ANYWHERE else in a LONG time. Good post Easy.
*hugs*
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Posted by Katydids_and_daisies
on 2008-07-15 09:40:36
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KP - Oh I intend turning you into a latte partner one day. You are very real my friend :)
A conga .. hmmm ok :)
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-07-15 09:54:02
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Molly - hey yes you are real!! For sure. I know I guess I should just keep thoughts to myself, they are the ones missing out :)
*hugs*
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-07-15 09:54:51
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erm...I am (unfortunately for you, lol) also real...and Stan? Unless I dreamed the traumatic labour and phooey nappies, and the baby lying with me now is a mirage...is also real, lol...
People told me what I had with Cheb wasnt real...all my (single) mates ribbed me about it...but they're still single and look at me! Yay!
Dave........out
p.s. glad to see angel has caught on with that...what the...did I actually influence someone and start something? lol xxxxxx
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Posted by geordiedreamer
on 2008-07-15 09:58:11
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Last I looked I was real. Scared myself half to death when I walked past the mirror. But lets not talk about that. ;)
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Posted by 1221dol0306
on 2008-07-15 10:15:19
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Great post, Easy. Like Katydids_and_daisies I don't talk to anyone either as I find myself living in isolation ... not sure why ... just the way it is ... For the most part thoughts is my little secret. Several of my email pals asked why I wasn't emailing as much and I just said I joined a writer's group. Even though my Summer posts have been more of the light and airy variety, it's a comfort knowing my blog is available at any time I wish for whatever purpose I wish to use it. I'm real and the people here are very real. I have even talked to one thoughts member by phone and hope in the future to move some of these friendships formed here into the real world via phone or perhaps a real live and in person visit.
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Posted by ColoradoDreamin
on 2008-07-15 10:28:49
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There are more real people here than in your real life!
The anonimity of the blogging site helps people to be and express who they really are without fear of ridicule or judgement by people who matter to them.
Go back and tell them that!
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Posted by scotslad60
on 2008-07-15 10:52:05
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Kel,
I too looked in a search for "free blog". I never expected to find more than some place to write some feeling out. I never imagined after all my years online I'd get this close to people. Real people! Just because you can't look in their eyes (in most cases) doesn't make them any less real. I'm here in real pain and still glad to be here.
I understand people not getting it. I don't know if I would have had I not found this place.
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Posted by anotherdaze
on 2008-07-15 11:21:58
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I know how you feel Easy! I have heard this so many times! Like scotslad said, people actually feel more free to be themselves here because it is anonymous. And, as I sit typing this in the home of another Thoughts member, I can say, without a doubt that the relationships formed on here, the friendships and the love, are VERY real.
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Posted by country_girl
on 2008-07-15 11:23:26
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I'M REAL! I'M REAL!
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Posted by KarKar
on 2008-07-15 11:41:25
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I just wanted to add that I have not been able to keep up with them all but I see your at 58 blogs with this one for the month. I just wanted to say from what I read at least quanity has not been lacking in quality! Keep it up girl your doing a great job! I'd be so lost for substance!
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Posted by anotherdaze
on 2008-07-15 11:53:08
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I can't believe someone actually said that. What an incredibly internet phobic attitude. I'm real. Honest. I couldn't make this stuff up if I tried. And if I could...shoot...I'd be selling it. lol.
I think that it's far easier to be absolutely honest with strangers because they have no preconcieved notions about you and you have no image to uphold. The thing is...the more honest you are with them the more quickly they become trusted friends instead of strangers. =]
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Posted by princess__spot
on 2008-07-15 11:59:05
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Real here
I heard something like this from my therapist a few months ago
I think they see this as an escape in a bad way, not a healthy escape
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-07-15 13:06:33
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I can guarantee you that I'm real...However I know most people probably think that I make up stuff....I'm not that creative...I couldn't make up the stuff that actually happens to me....I've shed real tears here....You're not alone!!!!
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Posted by Mamacita925
on 2008-07-15 13:40:37
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I can guarantee I'm real. I don't think I could keep up with my life story, if it wasn't. The friendships on here are real and I've even met Meredith, so she is real. :)
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Posted by prelude2it
on 2008-07-15 14:40:40
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Sadly-my little world is real. If it was a fantasy-it would be SO much more interesting.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2008-07-15 16:18:24
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LG - Your world is interesting, you are planning your wedding, you are going through all the stuff that make us women crazy as well as happy :)
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-07-15 16:45:39
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Hey girl....yes I too am getting a little sick and tired of comments like those you have recieved, but you know what? I have decided to keep my own private world of my friends here at thoughts just that.....private! Maybe that's a little sad because I am a very sharing person but if I'm frankly, sick of the bullshit comments of those around me about our "fantasy friendships" here.
And yes......you know I am very real!! xo
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Posted by Kaybee
on 2008-07-15 17:40:54
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It is the fine line battle between those who do not use a computer for anything but business or files and those who "live" on the computer.
Let's be frank. No, I will be brainstormer, and one of you can be Frank:P
Seriously, the whole online sharing thing...chat..."blog"...message board...it's all very nice to take the belt off and let loose a bit. But, it still isn't REAL enough for me. It's not enough. And, to rely all on this and not be a sociable person in the "real world" seems like a very unhealthy train ride into a darker and darker tunnel. I don't want to turn into some J D Salinger or that female poet whose name escapes me.
But, I can attest that we are all real people. Whether or not we all tell the truth and nothing but the truth is another story. And, we are all susceptible to the same evils in here as in life. Cheating, stealing, lying, gossip... As well as faking it, this, that and/or the next thing.
I can also attest to those in the "real world" repeatedly brow-beating me for thinking any of this is real when there are real people all around me. So, why don't I try talking to them instead?
Aaand, this suddenly feels like an AA meeting:P My OLD AA meeting.
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Posted by brainstormer
on 2008-07-15 19:01:02
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*Stands up* I am definately real. Not overly exciting but real just the same. I think friendships here can be just as real and sometimes more real than the ones we have in our day to day lives. In fact, there's someone I've met on here that I happen to like more than most my friends here in GA. ;)
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Posted by noahseth
on 2008-07-15 19:02:06
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