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He's back, I'm not sure when he returned, but he's back and I am now feeling anxious and wary. He called Miss 8 tonight and announced he's back home, after his almost 2 week QLD holiday with JS.
I still don't know why I have this fear of him taking more from me, or being able to HURT me anymore, but I do.
I used to think I would feel this way until our financial settlements are finalised. But now I realise everything he does, every action he takes still effects me, if I let it.
He can request a divorce in April, on the 20th. With JS and him a hot couple and her vocal desire to get married and have kids I'm sure that will happen.
He may ask to see the kids more - I doubt it - but if he does I'll wonder what his hidden agenda is! He's bound to want them to meet JS. He's bound to want them to 'love' her as he apparently does! This will hurt.
He may even decide other assets in the family home, now my family, not his, should be with him. Even though the legal eagles have said what we have now is what is ours to keep! Even though two weeks ago he came and took some of his things (bikes etc) that thus far he's been happy to leave here to rot!
It makes me nervous and anxious and very insecure. It's me against him and his army. My friends are my support network and my army, but we are lovers not fighters. And he's shown over the last year that he can be calculating and sneaky and the suprise attack he pulled when moving out was extremely well organised and researched.
But you don't know what you don't know - I prefer to be prepared... but prepared for what?
Maybe WhiteKnight can help me with this??? what else could he take from me that he hasn't already, what do I need to prepare for?
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Posted by EasyToSay on 2008-02-07 05:01:43 | Rating: | Views: 109
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Sorry things are happening to you now that he is back...My sister in law is dealing with an ex too and she has alot of fear for what He will do next....Don't let him steal your heart anymore....Fight the Good fight but do everything right with the Lords help on your side and your many friends here. Just keep writing and asking us for support and we will give you all we can....Love And Blessings to you and the kids...Hugs...
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Posted by Hollis
on 2008-02-07 06:23:05
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First you need to stop thinking he can hurt you. He did the worst he can do already. Second, the kids: as bad as this sounds, let them meet the new woman, do not bad mouth her. Why? because if you do he will use that to make you look like bad mommy that does not like daddy's new friend and hates daddy. The nicer you are the less he has to work w/ in that area. Make it like climbing a glass cliff for him . Third:You are a great woman that is loved and will again find a man. Know that and feel that and act that. If you are weak he may sense that weakness and use it against you when things get legal. .... Frankly I feel weird giving this advice in that my wife is you in a sense. However the difference is that I sense her weakness and it makes me less attracted to her, yes, but it does not make me see that I can manipulate her should it become that when KP gets well.
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-02-07 08:36:34
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But do keep asking and I will keep answering
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-02-07 08:36:58
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Truthfully, no one can peer into the future or be prepared for every single thing that might come our way. Just this week I was blindsided and stunned by a friend's sudden departure that I never saw coming.
Your ex has shown you who he is .... calculating and sneaky. You have a right to be concerned. I believe the power lies in each one of us to stand up for ourselves. We don't have to crawl away in fear to await an impending attack that may or may not happen.
I have no idea what the laws are in Australia. Here in America a women cheated on and left by her husband has rights and is offered protection under the law, especially when minor children are involved. If you don't have a lawyer (or legal team) that you trust and will fight for you ... start making calls and find one. You DO NOT have to be a victim in this situation. It's wonderful that you and your support team are lovers .... which tells me, all the more, that you need some "fighters" on your team as well. If your ex pulls a stunt you leave the fight to your legal team. They are professionals .... they deal with this kind of stuff on a daily basis. Let them be your warriors. In business as well as in life a team approach brings results. As a child I was raised to believe that I was all alone in this world ... that I could trust no one ... that if trouble came to my door there would be no one to help me. As I have stepped out in life I have learned that people want to help me. There are countless resources at my disposal for whatever crisis appears at my doorstep. We just have to ask, make that phone call or do a little research. When we think of every bad thing that might happen to us it creates bad karma. Know in your heart that every resource in the universe is at your fingertips ... all you have to do is reach out and grab hold of it.
I have the following saying on my night stand and read it often.
"The way to freedom is the belief that we
have the ability to choose.
Lord, help me make good choices and
never be blinded by the false idea
that I am a victim of circumstances."
Peace & Love To You .... My support and prayers are with you always.
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Posted by ColoradoDreamin
on 2008-02-07 14:54:29
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