Thoughts.com Blogs - He can have his day in court

Well I got a response to my email from my solicitor/lawyer
or whatever you want to call him.
He said no need to go to court ... nope .. no need to go!

He basically told me I can go if I want to but the only order that can be made is an order for Granting or
Not Granting MY DIVORCE

Ok ... here is his email :-

Hi E2S (changed obviously)!,
The bottom line is you can go if you want to, but there is absolutely no need for you to do so. All that is before the court is your husbands application for a disolution of marriage. The only order that can be made is an order granting or not granting the divorce. It is dealt with by a registrar not a judge and the hearing will take all of 5 minutes if that.( they list 15-20 disolutions each hour!) As you have signed the joint application and dont oppose the grant the order will be made as a matter of formality, there is no reason for you to attend. Your friends experience seems to relate to a hearing of property or childrens matters rather than a simple disolution application. Having said all that, if you have a spare couple of hours and want to see how the system works, by all means go along but I suspect you will be seriously underwhelmed and wonder why you bothered. Certainly the court will not be expecting you to be there.
regards
ES2's solicitor

So Stuff that, I'm not going ... I'm having a few pre-celebratory drinks right now and am feeling very emotional, alone and reflective!
I don't want to go to court for somebody to say

Yes you are right, your marriage did fail ... and regardless whether that was my fault or foty's it is still the same outcome.
I am still alone at night,
I still sleep in a Queen sized bed alone,
I still have 100% responsibility to my kids when he has fuck all!

I still feel bad when I have to get my lovely friends to help me out
- when work has to come first!

I have to make all the decisions on my own. Because I know where his needs lay.
I have to think and then re-think my decisions
- cause I don't have a sounding board,
I don't have a person who has the same priorities as me.

I'm it folks, if I stuff up, then so be it
if he stuff's up -which he has -
then I have to recover my kids hearts and happiness.

So bottom line is that on JUNE 3rd 2008 when my marriage is DISSOLVED
he will be there to rejoice in that decision
as for me, well I'll be home ALONE
I'll be home working - regretting I gave him the chance to break my heart
and temporarily break my spirit.
Then when June 4th comes around I will be a new person.
Fuck letting him dictate how I will live the next 38 years
FUCK HIM!