FOTY emailed me at work today, and for those of you who read my posts regularly, you'd know how I hate his emails, because

1 - they usually reveal a new surprise/challenge/bad news for me item.
and
2 - he puts a return receipt on each one, and if I don't respond quick enough he sends another asking why I haven't responded.

Today was no different, I skirted around his email which had the subject line of "Party Money".

Eventually I figured there couldn't be anything about Master 5's party that could upset me, he'd declined to pay half last week when I told him about the costs, so I was extremely surprised to see his turn-around in the email.
He simply asked how it went and if I tell him how much his "half" was he'll pay it into my account!

WOW! I thought to myself, both relieved and surprised.
So I cordially replied thanking him, and accepting his offer to transfer it via internet banking.

...... but then as I left the office 3 hours later ..........

I noticed I had a missed call on my mobile, and a subsequent voice message.  It was him!  He actually left a message saying he'd try me again shortly.

As Soon as he called me his words slapped me in the face, and took the wind out of my sails.  He'd been to his solicitor and signed the "DIVORCE" application papers. They were being forwarded to my solicitor/lawyer for me to sign ... "Please" he adds.

I couldnt speak, all I managed was OK.

He went on to say that if I incurred any costs related to me signing the DIVORCE papers, then he'd be happy to cover them, because it wasn't FAIR if I had to pay anything!!!!!

OK and BYE  was all I could say as he suggested I let him know of costs.

F**king arse was all I could think,
Because it wasn't FAIR !!!!!!  Because it wasn't FAIR!!???

which part of having an AFFAIR did he think was FAIR, 
which part of BEING ALONE at night did he think was FAIR!!??
which part of being a SINGLE MUM did he think was FAIR,
which part of financially struggling did he think was FAIR?????
which part of our children crying at night for their Daddy to be home was FAIR

... tell me what's been fair up until this point?

I tried not to let it bother me, but I'll admit I had tears streaming down my face the whole drive to Miss 8's school, I know it is unavoidable, and best for all, I know all that.  But I couldn't stop the tears.

I thought about calling a friend but knew it was something I needed to deal with, accept and move on.

Coincidentally at home there was an email from my Solicitor/Lawyer, initially this made my headache increase, but then I thought ..... hmmmm maybe I'd better have a few loooooooong conversations with my solicitor..... if FOTY is picking up the Tab..... hmmmmmm maybe

(although I know I won't do this, because that's just not my style... but it made me smile thinking about it!)