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I resisted picking up the phone when FOTY (Father of The Year) called Miss 8 last night.
We have caller ID so we know it is him when he calls.
The previous night when he called Miss 8 was talking to her Grand-mother and although she'd be talking for awhile, she chose to ignore the call from FOTY and let it go through to message bank.
However this night he rang (Thursday) night Miss 8 answered it and discussed her day with him. Although she was only half listening and responding randomly as she played "neo-pets" on the computer.
At the end of the call I heard her say
"Yes, bye Dad, Love You ........ hate joanna!" and she hung up the phone.
I called out to her - asking what she'd just said as the phone rang!
She answered the phone and said
"Oh nothing, see ya," and hung up again.
Then I heard her say "oooo ohh I'm in trouble."
It had been FOTY calling back he said "Sorry, Miss 8, I didn't catch what you said about Joanna."
Now Miss 8 has been throwing in little comments like this for awhile, and he's never taken any notice - as they were just as he was hanging up.
But this time he caught her.
I had the discussion with her about it not being right to say it out loud - and how I encourage her to put it in her journal/diary and to draw pictures and destroy them etc etc. But I had to explain the respect factor (even though I have none for my ex and his "FIANCEE").
We agreed she would call back and apologise (to keep the peace) and I even allowed her to say "MUM" made me apologise - because in her eyes she shouldn't have to apologise for hating the woman that has captured her Dads heart and robbed her of having her father with her mother.
Looks like her catching our conversation the other will have to be discussed a bit more ...... |
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Posted by EasyToSay on 2008-02-21 15:08:02 | Rating: | Views: 90
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Ok, be honest....there is a part of you deep iside, or maybe not that deep, that went YESSSSSS! when you heard this!!! be honest.
Yes she should be respectful but if I have this right, he asked for it!
Forget what he did in general, I rememeber you said he treats her like a 4 year old and nothing makes an 8 yr old girl madder
And if you did not say it, I did.
I know that one day(soon please) I will be the OTHER MAN that mommy married to two children that are below 10 years old and it would break my heart if they hate me, but I get a feeling that the way I will handle it, the way KP is handling it vs the way FOTY and Joanna are doing it are miles apart.
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Posted by whiteknight
on 2008-02-21 15:55:27
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Okay, shrugging - I admit YES i was glad - but I don't think it is going to do her any good speaking out like that - or in the long run if I encourage her to hate them. FOTY has done this himself - he still hasn't told my kids that he is engaged. He thinks they wont understand and are TOO YOUNG!!!!! Just goes to show how out of touch he is with his kids.
But also in a selfish way I thought that he'd think I put her up to it - which I definitely haven't.
** I did say he treats her like a 4 year old - because he does.
I think my daughter and son could get along with her, my kids are fantastic and very social creatures - and I will have to just accept that - but my ex, FOTY has done nothing to try to get them involved in his new life with his mistress, soon to be his new wife.
** You are once again very insightful with your comments - and yes your situation although similar in nature is totally left field to how these two have handled it.
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-02-21 16:11:00
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