Why doesn't anybody warn us women that after we get pregnant and have babies that we will become softer and more emotionally vulnerable?
There are so many things we are not warned about with regards to bearing children.
Of course we are told it will be the hardest job in the world,
We are told we will turn into our parents! That one I didn't believe until the other day I found myself promising (notice I didn't say threatening) but promising my children if they didn't keep their rooms tidy they would not get those bunk beds.
We are told we will never get sleep again, well solid sleep, it will be in 4 hour blocks IF you are lucky. Or at least for a very long time.
We are told that a mother doesn't have time to be sick, get tired or injured, be hung over because well a child doesn't understand that, a child still needs to be loved, fed and cleaned.
I found out that children don't really understand nor should they the grief a parent goes through when the marriage breaks down. It is actually more important for those children to be nurtured and reassured they are loved, than to let grieving overcome us.
Oh and a side note here I honestly think that one day the grieving over my relationship which is pushed so far down in my heart will come tumbling out - but I also know that that grieving will not be released until I know that I can completely trust another like I did the cause of that feeling. I am good folks, honestly but I just know there is a sold portion of emotion that is locked away.
Anyway sorry I got off track.
Another thing about having children that I was not warned about was my ability to control my emotions, that being with regards to movies. I used to LOVE watching horror movies, thrillers in fact. Gory movies never bothered me.
BUT now I jump a mile in horror movies, drama suspense movies. Picture the cartoons when the cat was scared so much he hit the ceiling and hung on to the roof by his claws. . . that is me when watching a scary movie.
It doesn't stop there, put on an emotional sad movie and I'm the one in the middle row with tears rolling down my face.
Like tonight, Moxi told me about a movie called - NIGHTS in RODANTHE and I mentioned it to my neighbour, well she has it and insisted I watch it - remember my munchkins are away for two nights.
Well I watched it and loved it Moxi, and well I want my own Richard Gere to find me, but like you said it did to you, it got to me. I was bawling at the end of the movie ... without giving it away.
The movie Step Mom has me in tears, I am now a blubbering mess when these type of movies are on. I guess I just should avoid movies. I dont need to shed tears over made up stories there is enough tear jerking things in real life in our world without worrying about movies.
So MUMS do you agree? Are you softer since becoming a Mum? Or is it just me?
I guess it's a hormone thing, but times it by 1000 once you have children. Another reason why men don't have children - some suppress their emotions as it is, imagine if they were hit by 1000 times the emotions ... hmmm I wonder!
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