oh my im naughty i red ur thoughts lol

Snuggle - lol.. that's okay I dont really mind - was just writing something out and didn't think it really worthy of a read so I titled it as such :)

It's not so easy to do... and I understand how it can happen... then you just have to step back and realize what your doing to yourself... it's tough going back to the "old" friendship after you have felt that way or said those 3 magic words... but it is not impossable... I like your thoughts...

Hey Doug, Yes it is easy to do, not easy to avoid. We are all very deep and beautiful people here on thoughts, we all share our hearts, what's there not to fall in love with .. but it hurts just as much if not more sometimes :) Look after yourself Doug ;) x

I couldn't agree with you more Easy. In some instances an affair could work no matter where or what separates you. It's best to start out as friends, with no intention of a relationship, Stay friends you can always step it up a notch if both are in agreement, in many instances one or both are in a relationship already and are looking for a little excitement. The internet in my opinion is not a place to find a romantic love mate or partner. As you say anything can happen.

Foolm8 - Yes if it is destiny it will happen regardless - but I think it's a small percentage, I am guessing. Staying friends can blossom into great friends. and I agree Internet is not the best palce to find that person - but yes again You never know :)

I read it anyway...cuz I always to things when I'm told not to! :P

This is good advice, Kel. As influx said, though, easier said than done. "Guard your heart" should be the mantra when dealing with people online.

:)

Boots - lol.. It is easier said than done. Good advice :)

I know about this,and several yrs on I'm still in love with an unattainable, hoping and dreaming something will come of it. Now it's no longer online, it's calls and visits. Holidays and savings. It may never happen, but it won't be because i let it fail it will be because she doesn't want me any more.

I hope you find some loving there Waasyon - sounds like you are a pretty loyal guy and you deserve to find your Juliet :)

As I was reading your post, the only thought that kept running through my mind was this... "To fall in love with words is that of falling in love with a painting."
(i butchered the quote but bare with me, I will find the correct way in which it was written) I am certain you got what I was saying. anyway regardless, I have been there. & as you said they were unattainable and it sucked.. anyway I will get back to you on the proper writing of the quote.
=)

El_D - yes you are right it is like falling in love with something material - although it does answer back, but doesn't mean you can have it :) I'll await your quote :)

I believe Words are nothing but the images of matter. To fall in Love with them is to fall in love with a painting.----


I found it, as a whole...

Words of wisdom there! People talk of physical attraction but there is nothing more attractive than when you happen to find that someone with an alluring mind.

I wish you all the best!

A sharp witty mind is very attractive MrBob .. ;)

Kellie did I ever say that my daughter met and now married her internet contact, now they are so much in love,I suppose it can work for some and not to all, they have been together now for 6 years and now married for 2yrs.they were in some web site,and "S" was in England,HE came out here to meet "A" then they went back to England to live,it can work Kellie.

By the way did you receive my emails

God loves you

Raymond

Hi Raymond,
Thank you for the beautiful emails you've sent me - YES I am receiving them :)

Very happy for your daughter, that's fabulous. :)

Five stars girl. all of your thoughts are great. Though I have never been in this situation I am sure that this is great advice to those who may need a reality check. Enjoyed reading this as always:)

Michelle, it's different for everyone, and everyone's situations change .. so I guess I'm just speaking from my thoughts not always covering everyones :)

K,
I don't agree. Love is good anywhere you find it. Love does not have to lead to actions, and sometimes its not practical, but it is always good. I have loved several women in life where it was not wise and/or practical to do anything about it, but it was still great even if a little painful. Of course, I am a person that thinks it is easy to love several people at a time -- it is just not easy to turn it into something it isn't, or into a story book ending. But, it is nevertheless love, something that is precious and wonderful the few times that we are lucky enough for it to happen in our short lives.

RR - I'm talking about that love that is true love, that love that sustains you and keeps you awake. I'm talking about that person you can't do without. I have met a lot of people online who I love ... like a friend. These people are very precious to me, and I am often overwhelmed with the love I feel for them.
But that love is not the same as wanting to get intimate with them :)

I appreciate your opinion though, and love your approach my friend :)

This was a beautiful post, Kel. I loved how you ended the post :) Yes it indeed is easy to fall in love with words spoken from the other end, specially when they are just the words you need to hear. It makes you lose all sense of perspective sometimes. Good post, it works for some, it surely does, but it never hurts to keep your heart safe :)

Thanks Angel, I appreciate your kind words.. and yes I agree with what you've said :) xxx

AHHHHH! ETS! YOU ARE NOW MY OFFICIAL SPOKESPERSON! HAHAHA!
WHY DID I READ THIS POST? BECAUSE I WANT TO!HEEHEE.xxx

YOU ARE AWESOME AND SOOOO RIGHT. :D

<3

Freeze,
My friend, I think you are pretty awesome too .. and I'm here anytime if you want to chat :) xxxxx

Kellie - you and I sing from the same hymn book, but could I just add that if a blogger makes frequent reference to the fact that he has kids and is a father, should that not say to the admirer 'Ok - I like this guy but I have to respect his circumstances.' So many people have been hurt on the outside world through no fault of their own and it is no different in the virtual world. I see no harm in folks flirting with each other when they are both free and single - in fact I understand how it can be fun, but just let's remember there are third parties involved who know nothing about this. Brilliant post K.

Auntie E, you are so right. It is important to respect that third person. There is a whole other blog that I could write concerning that, but you summed it up pretty well :) xxxx

great post as usual - love Puck

Hey Puckster, back to the photo we all know and love I see. Hope you are well my friend :) xx

~ awesome post... its great to read a blog thats just real to the core...nothing but true...no fancy words or meanings...well said :) ~

FrenchKiss - thank you I am flattered by your kind words. I dont usually beat around the bush .. takes too much time :) you are welcome anytime :)

Kel,
I will disagree with you
Love comes in many ways and online is just another one
It may be hard, it may not work, the hurdles may be too high, all that may be true
but it does not mean it was not love
and sometimes love conquers problems and sometimes not.
But it is love

Hey WK, we've got a lot of history here on Thoughts.com together as fellow bloggers and I know where you are coming from. What I'm really saying here is if you like someone because you chat and get along well online, it is not necessarily love.
If you are married and believe the attention you are getting here will outlast the real attention you get from your wife/husband and family - think again.
We are in a virtual world here where we can share, care and stare. . . but there are no bills here, no deadlines, so it's a little unrealistic don't you think?

I did not read a single word of this post since you said not to.

THANK GOODNESS .. someone who listens to me! lol :) lol great response Martin! :)

**Sara slaps her hand to face** You didnt ohhhhh Easy :P.

awwwww Sara honey ... lol .... friends? ;) xxxx

nothing like experience to form wisdom- just wish we could find words to stop some really dumb mistakes..

Mike - we'd never learn anything if we didn't make the mistakes to realise they were just that. Good wise words for me to hear from you .... xxx

Love is a feeling, feelings are thoughts. You must know when to turn that feeling of 'love' into a thought of something else, like say perhaps, a cousin, your brother your sister, or just a friend. Your 'feelings' originate from your thoughts. When you begin to think of this 'love' as possibly just a friend, and you think of it constantly as such, it begins to take root as truth. Only if you believe what you are telling yourself in your thoughts, all doubt must be over-ridden with the same constant thought and awareness that this is a 'friend' now. You MUST believe that the 'love' is no longer that, but that it is now a 'friend'. This requires constant awareness and consciousness. It is a discipline and a constant awareness that will serve you well if done with belief in your power to 'master' and 'channel' and 'monitor' your thoughts. Make sure to stop by and say, CHEERS! Or, as we say here in America-PEACE.
WELCOME TO THE CLUB BY THE WAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

-LIAM PATRICK NEASON-

Thanks Liam, wise words :) enjoyed reading your posts, will be back soon :)

Kellie,
On this point we will agree to disagree.
I get your real vs "here" point in your comment but....

And I agree that you and I have history, so I know that one day you will blog the other side of this again...LOL...not because of anything more than like us all, moods change and opinion changes and so it goes....

maybe WK .. just maybe :) and hey I'm surrounded by blossoming romances on the web, it's more the ones that are pining and aching over someone who is unattainable that I'm really talking about here :) and yes I agree, mood, opinions etc do keep changing :)