After having a few champagnes last night with friends I was surprisingly not in the mood to send HWG many many text messages like he did to me. Instead I sent two:
The first let him know that I was having drinks with friends and I'd text him later - just kidding I added.
To which he replied,
HAHA I think i have the monopoly on stupidity. Enjoy your night.
The second text I sent as my closure text:
Tell me not to text u & I'll stop.
Tell me I mean nothing to u & I'll forget December.
Tell me u r happy & I'll abide by the rules.
What u told me Wednesday confused me
I didn't hear back from him, until this morning ....
Hi, hope your hangover isnt too bad. I didn't mean to confuse you the other night(no more drunken calls!).
I'm still working things out with XXXX. Happy to provide entertainment advice though, books, movies and music only if you still want it of course.
(where xxxx is his ex girlfriend/now girlfriend again's name)
Firstly let me me say I don't have a hang over because I rarely drink to excess. So I knew exactly what I was sending last night, and I wasn't surprised he didn't respond.
I thought he would eventually, he's that sort of guy.
And the response I got today - well that goes along with what he is good at doing - being a diplomat, a politician - side stepping the hard questions and not really answering anything specifically. I think it is his way of not upsetting me? Or his way of not saying the wrong thing.
Now I guess I have to decide whether I respond or not.
Do I want to keep this guy as a friend?
- I think YES I do but only if I can ignore the fact he told me how he felt about me the other night.
Do I want (to appear eager) to have him provide entertainment for me?
- He has got very similar tastes to me as I've said in the past. But was my interest here really only so that we could continue to get to know each other and have some reason to talk and interact?
For example he's just loaned to me the Die Hard DVD's - which I accepted willingly - but they really aren't movies that I would stay awake to watch. But in saying that he's given me some great ideas, shared some incredibly good songs with me and distracted me.
I am a big girl, and I am quite capable of doing this myself, so am I just asking for this because I still feel attracted to him? Probably.
But if I do, am I breaking my own Rules?
When the relationship started between the two of us he was single!
His gf had left him because she was attracted to another guy!
After 5 weeks together on a pre-planned trip they've decided they wanted to try again.
HWG has put a 6 month time on this 2nd attempt, they are 3 months in and he told me in a drunken state that it wasn't going so well.......
Okay I can hear your heads shaking and your fingers getting poised to tell me to MOVE ON!
But what I am grappling with here is the friendship bit.
I have not in the past had a close friendship with a person of the opposite sex. Sure I've had friends, but they are usually my friends husbands/partners - so I never worried much about it developing into something else.
Mind you I"m sure once HWG finishes his contract at my place of work he'll never see me again.
And that bit will be out of my hands.
Oh I don't know, for now I won't respond to his text.
I'll let it fester in the grey matter in my head, eventually I'll know what the right thing to say is.
What would you do?
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