I really really like my best guy friend. Well, my second best guy friend. I have for like a year. Eep. And no, i dont think he'd change as a person, i reckon he'd just be a bit sweeter to me. He'd be the sweet type i reckon ;)

I have been in this situation, and I must say it took me a long time debating on the fact of weither or not to pursue my feelings. As some people say you take the chance of it turning into something great, or the chance that things will change and the friendship will never be the same. I thought that it was worth the chance...I was wrong, in my case things changed between us. Not for the better. Sometimes things may turn out great, but in case it doesn't, I don't think it is worth losing a great friendship. Things will always change no matter what, I think I would rather have the friendship.

The problem with this situation is that people think a female and a male cannot be friends bcuz in their minds it can only lead to trouble. One or the other, or both, could develop feelings and want something more. That's not always the case. Not everyone falls in love with their best friend of the opposite sex. When it does happen, it can be a great thing. Most relationships last bcuz the couple started off friends and grew from there, giving time for space while getting to learn the deepest things about "a friend." In other cases, friendship is what matters more and sometimes it shouldn't be messed with. Those kind of situations, people know the truth and should follow that.

i don't see why not.
i think it is actually better to be friends with someone before you start going out.

Personally, I'm not sure I want my lover to be my best friend, and I suspect that women only think they want their sweethearts to be their best friends. But best friends tell each other everything, without fear of reprisals, and most women can't handle hearing certain things from their lovers. One of my closest friends is a bisexual woman I know, and we're really quite thick (no, we don't have sex); but she gets turned off when I talk about certain things, no matter how innocuous the thing really is. My ex-wife was the same way, even though she basically considered failure to divulge to be the same thing as telling a lie. In an intimate relationship between a man and a woman, I think it's good for both the man and the woman to maintain ab it of mystery about themselves. If I discover something "big" about her that she hasn't told me, something that could hardly have slipped her mind, I'm probably just going to pretend I don't know anything about it; clearly it's not something she wants to talk to me about. And at the first hint there's something about me she'd rather not know about, my lips are sealed; I'm not going to risk my feelings, or losing my sweetheart, by self-disclosures she can't wrap her mind around. However, while I don't see the need to have my sweetheart be my best friend, I do want her to be my favorite friend -- the one I look forward to spending time with the most. Besides, best friend relationships tend to be a lot like a sibling relationship, and that's not exactly conducive to sexual intercourse.

Oh, by the way, yes, a best friend can become infatuated with you, and you with him. Yes, you can become lovers. Yes, he probably will change because of it, but not necessarily in a bad way (although that often happens).