:) Doug, personally I don't find it lying because like you said you aren't looking but your eyes aren't closed. So, in reality you are only looking if the girl strikes you as the one to settle with in your road to get your life on track. SO, if she asks before you knowing anything much about her then the truth is no you aren't REALLY looking, just taking it as it comes. Did that make any sense at all?? EIther way, nothing needs to be thrown just have fun and love will sneak up on you when you least expect it

I don't think there is anything "wrong" with what you tell girls. In fact, it would be much worse if you told girls that you wanted to settle down when you really didn't - then you would be lying to them and leading them on. What you are doing isn't hurting anyone. At the same time, it might come across like you are a player and just looking to "have fun". When you do that, you might drive away girls who really do want to settle down "with the right person" or you might attract only girls who like a challenge and then dump you once they "get" you. To avoid that yet still keep things "light", you could also add a statement that "if you met the right girl, you'd probably be ready to settle down but you are in no rush".

And by the way, not all girls who want to settle down play a game to try to impress guys. I don't. I want to settle down but only with the right guy and if I need to play games to get the guy, he's not the right guy for me. You are generalizing women big time.

no I am sorry and I did not mean to do that at all... I guess I am speaking more from my passed exp. Ya know your first initial impressions are hard to shake, so sometimes people guys and girls both step it up to try and put their best foot forward. and I am just scared i guess is the best word, to not see the real person behind the polish. The people I see in my area that go out make jokes about it. Talk about they are going hunting this weekend or they are going fishing this weekend so they can reel in a good man. and i understand not everyone man or woman is like that, and as much as i fight the male image I forget and put women in much the same light.
A player I am not lol that would be all to easy with the women in this area. but I see your point that I may be scaring off the ones that may want to settle. Life it to complicated lol why could'nt my parents have aranged my marrige lol i am joking.

You are not doing anything wrong....but don't wait for everything to fall into place to look for a relationship, there will always be something that is NOT in place preventing it.
And EWWWWW!@!!!!! I don't even like touching my husbands clothes....creepy for some chick to just randomly try to wash yours! I freakin' agree.....

Hey Doug - I'd like to address the dish-washing/lunch-making and whatnot. I sort of see this as a show of plumage. Either consciously or unconsciously, someone who does stuff like that is trying to display their good-wifisms. It's like when birds mate. The males puff up and try to look at big and provider-like as they can. The females might root through the laundry hamper in the nest to demonstrate their domestic skills. I think it's a pretty basic instinct (well, not that I'd ever behave that way, but there's nothing basic about me :P) It's natural to display what you have to offer (ie - skills or boobs, whatever) to a potential mate. See it for what it is, and don't be skeered!

You are not lieing
You are not looking, you will take THE ONE if it comes along.
And many single men would love to date the women you date that , as boot lady called it, like showing plumage

Heya Doug, I think it's fair enough that you say what you do say, and I don't reckon it's really lying. As whiteknight said, you're not lying, you'll just take the one if she rolls up. Most women, I find, really just want to settle down and have a full on, committed relationship, and a lot of them tend to rush it. Seems you're a victim to rushy, pushy women here.

Like those women that go around washing your clothes, again, what Boots said: showing plumage. Just trying to impress you so you'll stick around.

And it doesn't look like anyone's throwing anything at you as such! Well, besides honest opinions and good advice.

Cheers!

Doug...Although getting to know you better would be nice, let me make this perfectly clear....You will NEVER...NEVER....NEVER have to worry about me washing ur underwear! I don't do windows either...LOL

If you aren't 100% ready to settle down (and I think you'll know when you are), then you aren't lying. And I think that when you find "the one," she's not going to need to ask what you are looking for in a woman, she's gonna know that she is what you are looking for :)