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Ok I was thinking and no the fire department did not show up. anyway, ladies, and guys I got into a conversation today and someone told me I was cheep. And I dissagree, but I will let you decide. I guess it kinda bugged me becuase she did not even give me a chance to explain, just passed judgement with a few short words and walked away... I mean really it doe not matter to me. but then I got to thinking. what is she is right and I am just to close to see it... ut oh I better get someone elses thoughts... and were better than on thoughts lol.
So we had a conversation on dating and I told her that I really like for the first few dates to be simple dates. I really avoid 300.00 dinners, and extravagent evenings when I am getting to know someone. She said that was just cause your cheap....I tried to explain why, and she dismised me with a wave of her hand and walked off. lol At first I found it rather amusing, but then I started to wonder.
Now let me explain Doug's reasoning.... I would rather set a moderate pace when dating someone. I mean, I will not buy love at any price. So why not relax and get to know each other the real each other, not some flashy guy in a rented car eating things he just learned how to prounounce on the interent the night before just to make sure it really was not snails or goat testicles. Once you have her attention, and you really see you have athing going. Then spend a bit more money on the dates to make them extra special. Am i saying to make her buy her own food and got to McDonalds with a buy one get one free coupon? NOOOO!! I am talking takeing he out to olive garden or a small quiet out of the way place for diner. Go to the park, go to the movies, will I pay for it.... of course. I just do not see a reason to go to a place where you pick you piece of meat and you have 4 wait staff at your beck and call, and the wine you drink will run you an easy 2-3 hundred dollars. Why waiste that on someone you do not even know if you are going to like. Does it make me to frugal? does it make me cheap? I hope not. I do not think a date is a shopping spre... it is not a time to see how much money you can spend. Honestly if it takes money to impress a woman I do not want alot to do with her. I need to be able to take care of myself, I have a good job and I do well for myself. That should be a bonus to who I am... that should not be what I am. But I guess I have said my bit. Now you ladies can start throwning rocks or whatever lol. I just say save the special moments for those you care about. Do not waist them trying to impress strangers. Show them who you really are. And remember romance costs nothing...
oh yeah and at least smile as you throw the rocks hahaha
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Posted by DouglasMB on 2008-06-02 14:43:44 | Rating: | Views: 126
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OMG...wonka wants you too?....LOL I don't think you're cheap at all and agree with you 200%..and what the hell is wrong with Mickie D's...could be as nice as any place...depends on who you're with I think...I would settle for a bottle of strawberry hill and a tuna sandwich if its with the right guy....no kidding...just me!
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Posted by dreampower
on 2008-06-02 14:51:08
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Seriously Doug...I would honestly have more fun throwin back beer and wings at hooter's than getting dressed up in super incomfortable clothes and going to a place you can't talk any louder than a whisper at.
I agree though, the amount of money you spend does not impress me one bit, it's the quality of the time you spend together that matters.
But then again maybe I'm just a simple girl...
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Posted by Mamacita925
on 2008-06-02 15:14:20
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No you are definetly not cheap, at least in this context. If anything, you are being completely realistic. I would feel COMPLETELY uncomfortable if I were on a first date and a guy took me somewhere expensive...I'd still feel uncomfortable if Aaron did that just for the hell of it.
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Posted by ladiegodiva
on 2008-06-02 15:15:52
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Maybe I will make this a different blog kinda to just add to make it interactive...
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-06-02 15:17:29
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interactive huh??? lol
ah I could go so many ways with that
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Posted by Mamacita925
on 2008-06-02 15:18:10
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For some guys it a power trip... I bought you stuff your mine...
yeah i am not about all that ownership. If I have to put you on a leash I don't want you
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-06-02 15:19:57
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Douglas....Good show...Put me on leash? Wouldn't want you...Still that Mickie D's sounds pretty good right about now!
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Posted by dreampower
on 2008-06-02 15:34:36
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wait a minute....I thought you liked leashes!!!! lmao
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Posted by Mamacita925
on 2008-06-02 15:36:41
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No this doesn't sound like a matter of cheap. It's a matter of spending wisely. I agree with you really. I wouldn't want a 300.00 meal. I could find so many other uses for that money! And if you do 300.00 meals all the time then what are you going to do for the "special dates"?
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Posted by anotherdaze
on 2008-06-02 15:42:49
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Definitely not cheap! If it were me and a guy I barely knew was taking me to expensive places, I would feel uncomfortable since I, too, am still trying to decide if I like him. I would wonder if he was "expecting" something in exchange for being a big spender. I might also think he was a bit desperate and, like you wrote, trying to "buy" me. As long as the guy picks up the check, burgers and a beer, movie, etc. is totally fine. If he asked me to go Dutch or, as you said, flashed the 10% off coupon, THAT would be a different story. That girl was WAY off.
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Posted by Meredith
on 2008-06-02 15:45:52
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thank you guys... had me wondering if I was I had it all wrong in my head. there was a time when a hand full of wild flowers and opening a door for a lady wa enough
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Posted by DouglasMB
on 2008-06-02 16:07:50
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I am in total agreement with the all of the ladies (oh and Doug) above.
It actually makes me feel uncomfortable if a guy splurges on me ... maybe it's that I've been out of it too long.
The last time I dated in December ... I offered to pay on our 2nd and 3rd dates, he wouldn't have it. He was absolute Gentleman .. but then again he did have a GOLD American Express card! LOL
So I ordered an extra Caramel Latte!!
Oh and regardless if the guy lashes out or not, if his personality is non existant it wouldn't matter how much he spent.
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Posted by EasyToSay
on 2008-06-03 00:26:44
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Its not cheap at all, Doug. Besides, i think it might even scare me off if a guy takes me to a really expensive place on a first date...its like coming on too strong, in my opinion. I agree with Meri, i'd wonder where his expectations really lie...Im with you on this one, there is nothing wrong with it.
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Posted by angelwings
on 2008-06-03 04:54:54
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