A very classy reply to a very low blow, Doug.

One love.

thank you

My dear Doug - I couldn't begin to think badly of you in any way at all. I have the highest regard for your big heart and kind soul and to be honest, I would be feeling just the way you do. Much love, E x

thank you OTH you are a Rock!

Doug you know that you of all people I would never doubt. Your heart shines through your posts and could never be mistaken. Yes some people do these hoax things but hunn I know you are real, and I know that most people know that also.

I will never stop trusting people just because of the small things that happen in this world. I know that true honesty and heart still exists.

I am sorry that you are feeling down today, but please if you want give me a smile, let me give you another hug from my heart because you need it right now. L

Good for you Doug. And I hope your daughter is coping as best can be expected, with the loss of her classmate and friend.

I haven't been reading your blogs very long but the feel of your writing has given me the impression of a quiet subtlety uncommon in someone who is starving for attention. The words you choose are hardly superlative as it would be in someone who is gathering sympathy to themselves. When RHM's situation arose, I had doubts but was graceful because in reality I didn't care whether she was doing this for attention or not. Her persona was one of high drama. It is this persona who raises red flags for me, not someone whose focus is on quiet pursuits. It saddens me that you have to face such an accusation.

^^^

I forget who said this first but"For those who believe no answer is needed and for those who do not no answer will surfice"

Good job, Dougy. I never once thought you made it up.

Miss you.

Doug, you are awesome for explaining, you did not have to. People are doubtful and don't have faith in others, it sucks but it happens. I hope you are ok. I had no clue you had a daughter. Take Care.

I am sorry anyone would question your motives,
or accuse you making something like this up???
Did I read that correctly?
Fake illness?
Stay true to your heart!
It shines right thru!
R

Doug, You have been on here for quite some time and I am surprised knowing you for such a short time that anyone could imagine you faking anything. You come across as genuine and honest. I am sorry too that you felt you had to defend yourself. I am sorry for your daughter and her loss.

Doug ~

If I am out of line placing this here then I encourage you to delete such. If this does not help you as far as this entire tragedy is concerned I do apologize now.

1) Your feelings regardless of what all the facts might be are to be dealt with and accepted as your feelings. Not one other peron who simply floats past and reads can completely understand. You wrote initially to deal with all that was troubling you or at the least giving you pause to clear your mind onto 'paper' how you were and/or would deal with such with your daughter. This is your blog. Your space. Blood hounds be dayumed.

2) Each person makes a choice as to how they will handle what they read. They can read and go on. They can leave a comment which then leaves the owner of the bloggie with some choices. They can go off and write their own blog about what they have read. They can email you in private. The bottom line is this: regardless of what may come out now or later in regards to any situations in a blogging community how each person handles it says a great deal about their character. Now observations over time have told me (personally) who are the emoters, who are the doubters, who are the sympathy overloaders. In the end ~ any tragedy real or even concocted surely is fodder for bringing out all kinds of behaviors. I see no difference in the drama queen soap opera tragedies or the real ones for it is what the behaviors are from many others that is statement to where they are in their own journeys.

3) Douglas had already left a link to the obit in a previous blog post he made. I child did die. The death of a child regardless of how is always and forever a tragedy and Life changing event. What has been shown is that Doug has struggled with working out his own course to take from the death and especially as it relates to his own daughter. There are benefits for many in is generous writings left for all to view. My Gawd respect for that alone is in order.

4) (I happened to join this site just about the time this RHM or whatever was into the drama that then drug many members in. Quite a time for a newbie to arrive.) It is almost devastating to in this post now even bring up other dramas that have played out on this site. This site is NOT unique to such dramas. And regardless of the players the 'personalities' always unfold along certain given lines of behaviors. There are the 'investigators' often quite righteous in digging out more facts than even were available on a sunny clear day. There are the believers that no matter how they are shown some things do not quite gel will believe and evn intimidate others via shaming and blaming. There are the ones who have compassion and express that and then move on. In the end ~ not one person who saw any of the drama is left the same as before. CHOICES. Learning!! (and a thingie called doubt which for several weeks now I have been trying to finish writing so that i might post and will in due time).

5) What have you the reader and even Douglas learned about thru all this?

Douglas again I apologize for having dumped on your bloggie post. This is the bottom line for me personally:
Respect the health, safety and welfare of self and all others.
LOVE always Wins!!

May learning LOVE be the Journey thru any and all situations.

Always Love ~
KateyB

Thank all of you for your support and I will post the second part of this soon... the better of the two blogs I promise... it is long but what I have taken away from this who thing will stay with me a life time. (I am not talking about the thoughts drama)

Good Morning. I don't believe there was no explanation needed. But in doing so, what a classy reply. I agree with Bootlady. This was a tragic accident and loss to the community as well as her friends and family. My thoughts and prayers go out to all that have been affected by this. I'm sending a smile your way, just because! :).

Douglas..I believed every word you said. As a parent myself, dealing with the death of children the same age as your own is always hard. My son had a friend die a couple of months ago. Looking at this child in his coffin was very difficult, as all I could see was my own son laying there. At times like these, it is hard to help your child deal with his/her loss, because you have absorbed yourself in the empathy for the parent involved and self absorbed into the "what if this was my child" part. I think you handled this situation well with your daughter and you learned the lesson, of noone is promised tomorrow, tonight or even the next hour. Embrace and love the people around you and never take them for granted. (((hugs)))

As far as the attack on you by the other person, the title of his blog speaks volumes.

peace :) shemelts

I have absolutely no idea what this is all about Doug...But support I do give you cuz you are one of the most honorable men I've ever known...

HCFEFUFJBRFWE

well la dee da!

Nice post Dougaroo,but ya ddint need to, you're Mr. Shitdontstink, so nobody would doubt you anyway.... Want some facts? I wrote a blog blasting liars... I wrote a blog so vague it gave whoever I wrote it about absolute annonymity. I wrote a blog expressing my thoughts and ideas about a matter that I fet strongly about...... you wrote a blog defending yourself from an attack that was never there.... Guess what? I doubt you now:)

The gentleman doth protest to much.

the problem I had with the story was I wanted to write on her. I was motivated to write for her and I couldn't find one single mention anywhre (other than a very uninformative obit which you so kindly provided)
I emailed you asking for anything that might help me find something and your response was a blog claiming some sort of media blackout. Fine, for once Americans decided it was time to use discretion and NOT write about a sensational story that would gaurantee sales. That was mighty kind of them. But it didnt help me write for her.

Your story felt...... odd to me. Then I couldn't find any news on the matter and it felt down right dirty, but fuck it man, I swore on my momma I would never blast you in a post again so I didnt.

A couple of your friends seemed to take what I wrote and insert your name, now what I would be asking myself if I was in your shoes is how come they were so quick to see you as the alleged "liar"?

I got sick real quick of the questions being asked in IM and email's last night as to who the liar is.... I said in the freakin post that I wasn't going to name the person, and I still wont, but your friends were pointing at you pretty hard.

If it was you that I wrote about than my only proof it would seem is the lack of proof to confrm, but I wasted far to much time trying to find ANYTHING just so I could write this poor girls story that I dont feel the need to write on it at all anymore.

Have fun defending yourself, when you as far as I can tell from my post, didnt need defending.

Lana it appears would know to a degree, I think, what I was writting on since she commented me (twice to be sure, but she deleted one out of fear) and she commented you in support of both of us. Now ether she is incredibly "wishy washy" or she knows what my post was saying and to whom.

Hey bubby, its a tough road we walk when we walk it stepping to everyone elses beat, thats why I only walk to the rythm in my head..... Smile Doug, I'll be laughing myself to sleep tonight

I'll keep this simple, "IF" in fact this had nothing to do with me then I absolutly apologize with all my heart. With everything I have going on at the moment, my nerves have been a bit on edge. I am getting a bit thin around the edges.

But with that said... after seing you openly say in a comment on your own blog that you emailed a few people to correct that it was not about them and to have not gotten an answer to my own. i took the silence as a key. Then with all the doubt you put on the forums... and our history... and the "smile" referance... I mean is it hard to see how easy it was for me to put this together... and not just me but the people that emailed me as well to ask me questions?

Again if I was out of line and if this truely had nothing to do with me... then I am sorry. but in the passed you have attacked me for no other reason that because you could... with your self admiting to me that you really do not know why. I do not think I blew this out of the water... and if it ws truely a missunderstanding then even you should be able to see how I came to my conclusion.

I do my thing... you will do yours... and the world will spin as it always has...

and as far as my friends inserting my name? will I look at them different? absolutly not... it is your actions in the passed directed to me for little to no cause other than just tony being tony. over that last 18 months or so I have been part of a seed to quite a few of your rants... so no I do not think anyone any different. I do not look at them as if they think I am a liar. I am just sad at the fact so many times you have done this, then when you do I am "one" of the first names people think of when they try to figure out who tony is talking about.

Nice try, Skippy, but I think your forum thread pretty much puts paid to this particular tap-dance. Remember this one?

http://www.thoughts.com/forums/showthread.php?t=255 71

in which you said this:

"this is what I'm talking about...
http://www.thoughts.com/DouglasMB/bl...-child-37050 7/


... he says it was recent, hanging, in NC.... 2 out of 3 empaths say it dont add up.."

And this:

"I'm begining to wonder if there is anything to turn up"

Then to follow this up with your post? C'mon...It's pretty obvious this was just more of the same ole get-Doug witch-hunt. Grow up. You're making a fool of yourself.