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The Disease of Hidden Love
Why is it that, we find it so hard to let someone know that we care about them?

Is it because, we do not want to seem like we are beggers for love?

Is it our need to save face and not to look desperate?

I see it the most in romantic love.

I know of these two people who love each other dearly, and they have admitted it to me privately, but they cannot or will not admit it to each other.

Neither one of them believe that the other one loves them.

I have even let them both know, some of the things the other has said to me, concerning their feelings.

Still, that pride stands in for their true feelings for each other.

One of them told me, she is going to have to say..."I love you"...first, because I am surely not going to.

I had to laugh at him, because this is a hard thing for me to understand.

I have no problem telling people how much they mean to me.

I have this childlike thing about me, where if I love someone, I am not the least bit afraid, to tell them how much I care.

In fact, I have been rejected many times for being like this, but it has not stopped me from being openly honest with my love.

I prefer outward rejection over hidden love.

What good is love, if you hide it?

Hidden love is worthless.

Projected love changes lives.

I have not always been like this, so open with my love.

The rejection stopped me for a period of time, but the love built up inside, so strongly, that it just comes pouring out now.

Cat got your tongue?

I would call it a disease, the disease of Hidden Love.

It will kill you with loneliness.

I dare you tell someone that you Love them today.


Posted by DifficultSoul on 2007-12-29 12:59:06 | Rating: | Views: 235


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Posted by
trevorjohn
on 2007-12-29 14:24:22
 
This is a 1st that I was the first one to get to comment on your blog.
I have spoken the words with ease all my life. It is awesome to not hold out love.
 
 

Posted by
ColoradoDreamin
on 2007-12-29 15:15:12
 
Wonderful and thoughtful post DS .... I have stood at a grave site with things left unsaid on my heart. It taught me a valuable lesson ... say what you feel, even at the risk of rejection. The hurt and pain of rejection is minor compared to the pain of someone leaving this earth never knowing someone loved and cared about them. We think we have all the time in the world ... but we only have this moment. Excuse me as I have a few "I Love You" emails and phone calls to make. Thanks for the reminder. God Bless
 
 

Posted by
missmarie
on 2007-12-29 16:25:58
 
I LOVE YOU
seriously, you can't stress a point like this enough.
well Said DS xxxxxx
 
 

Posted by
ColoradoDreamin
on 2007-12-29 18:10:42
 
"Love, as a word, is memorialized in countless books, movies, poems, and musical compositions. While there are many definitions of love, its essence, when used as a verb, can be captured in a few phrases:

to care for,
to cherish,
to respect,
to honor,
to show an interest in,
to value,
or to treat with kindness."

~Francine Ward~
 
 

Posted by
kmalbro
on 2007-12-29 21:24:56
 
and yet if not for these diseases of the soul where would our inspirations stem from? much as it seems bleak to admit...as writers we are also masters of turning the darkness into something beautiful. there is no worthwhile self examination while simply staring into the happy mirror. its the shadows that make us worth the glance.
 
 

Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-29 22:03:08
 
trevorjohn-..
I see that in you.
People like you, make life worth living.
To hear someone say those three words, could save a life.
Your loving words, have many times, encouraged me, and have given me tenacity to keep doing what I do, which is glorifying love, through melancholy songs from my heart.
Peace to you my friend.
 
 

Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-29 22:05:58
 
ColoradoDreamin-..
I know exactly what you mean, about finding someone in death, and wishing you would have said the words, that were on the tip of your tongue, and yet you held back because of the worry of what they might think of you.
I did that with my own mother.
I still rehearse in my mind, at times, what I wished I would have said to her.
 
 

Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-29 22:10:31
 
missmarie-..
I must let you know as well, I love you.
We have never met in real life, but just by reading your words(especially your last dream entry), and through our private conversations, you have become a very important person in my life.
Friends like you, that I trust instantly, are a rare thing for me.
I can now say, that I have three people that I have met in my entire life, that I felt that way about, and you are one of them.
Your spirit shines, with genuine kindness and caring.
I love you more than you will ever know Marie.
 
 

Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-29 22:12:36
 
ColoradoDreamin-..
I love quotes, that was a beautiful one.
Thank you.
Love is...a verb.
 
 

Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-29 22:14:41
 
kmalbro-..
So true is your statement.
I especially love melancholy music.
I get my best writing highs, when I write of the dark paths in my life.
The light would not even hold or even be considered light, without the darkness of our souls.
Peace!
 
 

Posted by
tonyrayhutchison
on 2007-12-29 22:28:12
 
I want the world to know, when I behold a flower noone else has seen, I shout it from the rooftops "look at her, look at the beauty she is" I like this post DS. thank you
 
 

Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-29 23:39:45
 
tonyrayhutchison-..
You shout from the rooftops very nicely!
 
 

Posted by
BushGuy
on 2007-12-30 01:47:17
 
DS, Are not you glad to see. I once was blinded by the fears you described in your friends. Afraid to risk love, unable to know how to say it.
I guess we live by example. To teach love, we love. May this season be filled with love for you, DS.
 
 

Posted by
DanniBoo
on 2007-12-30 03:34:09
 
this is beautiful!
 
 

Posted by
Forgetmeknot
on 2007-12-30 11:51:41
 
Yes this is a very well written post DS!!
 
 

Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-30 12:02:27
 
BushGuy-..
I am glad to see that you have been cured from this disease.
Love displayed is a beautiful thing.
 
 

Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-30 12:03:18
 
DanniBoo-..
Thank you.
Love is very beautiful.
 
 

Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-30 12:06:38
 
Scarboroughfair-..
Hidden love is a pandemic.
The cure is boldness of spirit.
Be bold in your love my friend, then there will be at least two of us, fighting for world wide healing.
 
 

Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-30 12:07:55
 
Forgetmeknot-..
Thank you.
I think any writing influencing others to show love, is very well written.
Peace.
 
 

Posted by
bubblydi
on 2007-12-30 13:49:54
 
It feels like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders when you finally have the courage to say these 3 little words.
Maybe these 2 people you are talking about just need a little courage.
Great post DS.xx
 
 

Posted by
DifficultSoul
on 2007-12-31 03:53:17
 
BubblyDiane-..
Love does make the world feel lighter.
The two I am speaking of, need more than courage.
They need a thump on their thick skulls.
hehe.
I am speaking of my son and his girlfriend since 6th grade.
hehe.
I give up on them, if it was meant to be, it will happen.
I just refuse to be their telepathic instant messenger any longer.
 
 

Posted by
Pauligan
on 2007-12-31 08:38:17
 
Rejection is a tough pill to swallow and the pill gets bigger after each rejection, that's why love stays hidden. When rejection hits it tears away your own self-love bits at a time until you think that no one could love you. The real hidden love disease is lack of self-love.
You have conquered your disease, LftH, and you are doing a great service to others by sharing these kind of writings.

Oh, by the way, I love you, you know.
 
 

Posted by
Diaphonous_Me
on 2007-12-31 10:21:17
 
i leave behind no regrets, i live sharing my feelings to those important to me. very nice DS
ramble on...
 
 

Posted by
scotslad60
on 2007-12-31 11:44:27
 
Excellent post DS. I have missed a few of yours and am catching up now.

Namaste
 
 


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