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the truth about my child.....
Do you think about our baby?
I am convinced it would have been a girl. Andrea, that is what I would have named her.
You know this, I told you before, didn’t I?

I think about her. I see her when I look at Amelia. The nights I lay next to you and cry -
are for her. I walk around with the receipt from the clinic in my wallet, you told me years ago to get rid of it.
How do I throw away my child’s death certificate?
How do I throw away the memory of what I did… what we did?
Do you know I cried out to them to stop?, just before they punctured my womb and rendered the service I paid for, murder my unborn baby!
It was too late, if they stopped I would have miscarried. Who do I blame? ME

I genuinely did change my mind, I really truly wanted to run out the clinic and tell you, you are going to be a daddy and I a mummy. Instead I just laid there, the pain was excruciating but nothing compared to what was happening in my heart. I hardly felt it….the murder was long, the nurses chatted about their weekend ahead and I heard only the cry of my child. “mummy it’s sore, why are you letting them tear me apart mummy”
Those words ring in my head.
They haunt me.
You think it’s easy- - - it’s NOT.
I didn’t just get rid of a ‘problem’ I created a life long suffering.

I dreamt of her so many nights. They felt so real. I smelt her, I touched her. I heard her laugh. Then I wake up and my nightmare begins………

I wish I had given Andrea life, I wish I had the decency to give her up for adoption. I wish I did give birth to her. I wish . . .

Doesn’t matter, she is gone
A part of me died with her.
I have never been the same.

I will never forget you Andrea, I loved you even though I knew you for 4 months only in my womb. You are and always will be my first child. I miss you everyday and I won’t stop thinking about you. Mummy made a mistake that cost you your life and I regret it with everything that I am I tell you – I regret it. God gave me a second chance and let me have Amelia so I will take care of your sister the best I can. I am sorry I hurt you, I am sorry I killed you. When I see you on judgement day, please will you come give me a hug and just call me “mummy” – once! I love you.

I am sorry !



Posted by Deana on 2008-04-10 08:09:04 | Rating: n/a | Views: 88


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Posted by
Whitters
on 2008-04-10 08:18:50
 
Hard to forgive yourself isn't it?

Please email me if you get a chance. I'd love to talk to you.
 
 

Posted by
Mamacita925
on 2008-04-10 08:24:23
 
This is very powerful.
It's hard I know...I went through the same thing, I still go through it everyday looking at my daughter wondering who in the hell I think I am to choose who lives and who dies...your daughter knows your pain, she knows your sorry...

I'm am so sorry you are going through this. Please let me know if you need anyone to talk to..
 
 

Posted by
ffeeona
on 2008-04-10 09:26:34
 
I've never read anything so powerful on this topic. Even though I've never experienced it, I can feel your pain. But you need to forgive yourself, whats done is done, and don't allow your pain to stop you from loving your Amelia completely. I think you need to see a therapist because you sound like you're experiencing a lot of pain. Pray about this, God will give you relief.
 
 

Posted by
Deana
on 2008-04-10 09:41:45
 
It hurts, it hurts so bad. Every year this time I go mad! I just want her in my arms... but thanks to you all for making me feel like less of a murderer and for understanding...
 
 

Posted by
CrazyBeautiful
on 2008-04-10 12:10:54
 
I have No words. This is so...powerful, I almost cried right here at work. You are NOT a monster! Never think that of yourself. You made a choice on what you thought was the right thing to do. No one can fault you for that. Worry not, Love. Im sure your Andrea is looking down on her mama right now and smiling. Just like my little John Daniel is looking on me. :) Email me if you need someone to talk to.
 
 

Posted by
HungryHeart
on 2008-04-11 01:30:02
 
I have heard this story before from women who opted for abortion. I think it is a woman's choice to choose, but I wish they could all read your story before deciding. Thank you for sharing.
 
 

Posted by
shemelts
on 2008-04-11 11:19:20
 
Sweetie..we make choices in life and I know at the time under duress you made this choice. You did what you thought was right at the time and though it is painful for you, you must accept this now and move on. You are not a bad person and certainly not a murderer. Whatever circumstances you were in at the time influenced this decision. Just because circumstances have changed doesn't make this a bad choice. Please forgive yourself, love your other daughter and pour all your energy into being a good mother to her. Hindsight is 20/20 and all of us, every person on this planet has made choices that they would change given the opportunity. Not one of us is perfect or without faults. Love yourself for doing what was right at the time. Focus on forgiving and accepting yourself as a good and kind person who mean't well. Much love to you and compassion for what you are going through. peace :) shemelts
 
 

Posted by
jessicab4
on 2008-04-11 12:07:02
 
I never had this happpen to me but i know what you are feeling it is probley hard to make the choice you did. You know your daughter will understand when you meet with her again. just as long as you think you made the right choice that is all that counts i know you probably miss your daughter to death and miss her alot but just htink of what would have happened if you would have had her and then would have to give her up that would have been harder to do than what you did. Hopefullly you did the right choice even though you dont think you did. Just give your child the love you would have gave her. Im sorry for what you are going through i feel your pain.
 
 

Posted by
overthehillandfaraway
on 2008-04-11 13:44:48
 
We all make huge mistakes in life because at that moment, that part of our lives, it seems the only way out. I'm so sorry you are still living with the pain and I do understand it totally. What I can tell you, and forgive me if it is intrustive or insensitive, is that God will forgive you if you truly mean it and He will ensure your little one will not be unhappy. You are who you are because of your past but your future allows you to change things and make better choices. God bless you and your little daughter who will be very precious to you.
 
 


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