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~My Aunt~

I intend on writing more about my Mother......silly me had to stop and think, do I start a new blog??...or just add to the one I originally started??
See.....one would think I would be extremely smart at all this stuff.....I work in a school for Christ's sake ~LoL~
But here I sit, wondering how to basically write!
Write in an online public diary...*sigh*
Anyway, I have so many stories in my mind about my Mother, but I wanted to share my Aunt with yunz too~
She is my Mother's sister...FAVORITE sister I might add.
They were very close.
Their Mother had 13 children.
The first set of children, which included my Mother and my wonderful Aunt De.....they were given away to a children's home.
My Grandfather and Grandmother evidently divorced (I don't know all the story on this part) and while my Grandfather did go to see the 6 children every single Sunday, and he brought each of them a nickel.....the Mother never went at all.
She didn't want those children for some reason and so she gave them away, and the Father just couldn't afford to raise them all on his own.
Then my Grandmother had a second set of children.....with a different man, produced 7 children then, and kept all them!
They all turned out to be the idiots and skanks and scumbags...and I never liked my Grandmother after learning all about this story.
So, my Mother and my Aunt De were the closest, and I think mainly it was because they were the only 2 that never were adopted.
That makes me so sad :-(
And they are the best 2 *smiles*
So, thru all these years.......Mother and Aunt De stayed in touch, as Mother lived in Tennessee and Aunt De lived in Illinois.
They had some awesome times together....Aunt De would come down for the holidays and help prepare the meals....her and Mother would go to Bingo together.
They would shop till they dropped...and laugh till they pissed their pants ~Lmao~ (true story!!)
Mother was always anxious when it was time for my Aunt De to visit....and I too of course, was very close to my Aunt.
Even moreso after we lost Mother.
I had to call my Aunt in Illinois when I was told Mother was terminal....they had admitted her into the hospital, but they could do no more.
I remember that call, and I was crying.
Aunt De had caller I.D. and when she picked up the phone, she immediately said "Hi Darling!"
Then she heard my emotions and I told her what was going on..and God love her, on her end, she was going hysterical~
She kept telling me she was going to leave immediately and she would be here for me and Mom. (it is a 12 hour drive btw).
She said she would take a couple of her daughters with her....and they were going to leave that night.
They did...they arrived...and my Aunt was a tremendous help, in every way possible.
When my Mother passed away, my Aunt sort of took her place...she was a watchful eye over me.
I honestly think Mother asked her to look in on me from time to time, because at least 3 times a year, my Aunt would just up and show up unexpectedly on my doorstep!...to pay me a surprise visit! :-)
It was great!
She would stay with me for 3 or 4 days, then drive back to Illinois~
She was buying me special things.....in honor of my Mother....and I found myself, buying all the special gifts I used to buy for my Mother, now buying for my Aunt De :-)
We talked on the phone quite often~
She never forgot my birthday.....she and I would sit for hours, and share memories of my Mom~
I would look at my Aunt, and think how much alike her and Mother were..in looks and personality~
We would talk about how much we missed Mother, and then tell ourselves, she is no longer hurting, so that's what mattered most~
She is a very special Aunt.
I never knew how special, until she passed away.
She had trouble with her lungs too.....and she must have known her time was coming close, because she told her children where to find her will and the list of things she wanted to be done after she passed and she even made a list of how she wanted each of her children (she had 12) to have what certain item from her home.
Her oldest daughter told me that the LAST time my Aunt came to see me, that particular daughter was supposed to come down too, but she couldn't get off work.
She told my Aunt, that she was having some vacation time in a couple weeks, asked her to what till then, and they could drive down together.
My Aunt said no........her daughter told me she was determined to come down, telling her children "I have to go see Debbie".
So, her children think she knew.....because of all the things she was planning and how she was determined to get down here, right then!...at the time she wanted to.
She would kiss my Mother's urn as soon as she walked into my home......telling her sis she loved her :-)
Then when it came time for her to depart back up north, she once again, kissed the urn, telling my Mother "see ya later".......she had a phobia about saying "good-bye"......especially after we lost Mother~
My Aunt would call me every November 14th....and we would cry together.
This is going to be the first November 14th with no phone call from my Aunt De.......she passed away this past February :-(
At her funeral.....she wrote her own obit.........she listed of course, her 12 children. But in the front row, in the funeral home, they had 13 chairs~
And when the funeral director was reading something to the large group gathering in the funeral home, he said De not only has 12 children, but she has 1 very special niece....and he said my name~
My Aunt De had wrote it exactly that way.....very special niece, and she had underlined it several times~
It was printed in the newspaper that way too........her very special niece (my name) and my hometown in Tennessee where I live :-)
So, that 13th chair, was for me *smiles*
She felt like I was one of her own, and all the cousins agreed, I belonged up front, with all her other children.
Everyone was touched by this....no one more than I~
I knew she loved me, without a doubt.....but for her to write that piece for her funeral.......just brings tears to my eyes as I write this~
And I did say a few words........some had asked me why I was so 'special'........and I told them I guess it's because SHE is so special.
She became my second Mother, when I lost mine~
I could call her at any hour, day or night....in raging tears, wondering how I was going to make it without my Mother~
Aunt De would tell me how she prayed to God, for Him to please help guide me thru this difficult time.
And sometimes.........sometimes.....she would just sit there, on the other end of the telephone....over 800 miles away....and cry with me.
Because that's all we knew to do~
Now, I don't have my Aunt to run to now.........come November 8th, it will be 9 months since she left this earth.
I like to think she is giggling and running thru flowery meadows with my Mother, laughing like little girls :-)
Or playing Bingo someplace up there..and winning ~LoL~
I stay in touch with her children of course.
They have all been lost, but there are so many of them ~LoL~...and they all have each other.
Here I am......way down south........and really missing my Aunt De....which btw, her real name is Demitra.
She shortened it to De....made it easier for everyone *smiles*
I love you Aunt De, and I will "see ya later".........