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Warm and Fuzzy on 2007-12-31 22:29:45 |
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I have found also that men want you even more when you are not so available. It has never failed yet, when I take a step back (play it a bit cool ... "cool" not cold) they take a step forward every time. I guess most guys love the chase. I also have a little saying that I abide to in all my relationships, especially those relationships with men ... "I want you to want me." Meaning I don't do a lot of chasing, begging etc. Kind of forces a guy to step up to the plate if he truly wants me and I'm important to him. Peace
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The Love of a Heretic on 2007-12-31 15:18:38 |
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Amen ... I can add nothing you said it all and quite eloquently I might add. Happy New Year DS!
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Ding Ding Ding! on 2007-12-31 15:12:10 |
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Religion is for people afraid of going to hell, Spirituality is for those who have been there.
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A Great 2008 on 2007-12-31 14:54:03 |
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2nd childhood -- I'm a huge fan of Marianne Williamson. As I read this excerpt I thought of all the changes you are going through. Perhaps you are reseeding and regreening. Wishing you a New Year filled with sweet discovery and happiness. Remember I'm here cheering you on.
----Excerpt from: THE AGE OF MIRACLES: Embracing the New Midlife
Author Marianne Williamson
To Be Published January 8, 2008
"Sometimes what we appear to have lost is simply something it was time to leave behind. Perhaps our system just lets something go, our having moved through the experience and now needing it no more. A friend of mine was sitting once with two of his best friends, a couple he'd partied long and hard with during the l960s. At about ten in the evening the couple's twentysomething daughter came home, saw them on the couch, and admonished them, 'You guys are so boring! You never go out!' To which all three responded in unison, 'We were out, and now we're in.'
The mind is its own kind of dance floor. What this generation could do from our rocking chairs could literally rock the world. If in fact the highest, most creative work is the work of consciousness, then in slowing down we're not doing less; we're doing more. Having slowed down physically, we're in a better space to rev up psychically. We are becoming contemplative. We are shifting from the outer to the inner not in order to begin our demise, but to reseed and regreen the consciousness of the planet. And that's what is happening now: We're going slower in order to go deeper, in order to go faster in the direction of urgently needed change."
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Bring On The Unknown on 2007-12-31 13:55:46 |
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I'm new to this site and stopped by your blog for a visit. I can relate to your feelings of loneliness. While I have no answers I will say there are all kinds of situations in this life. While religion and "the moral high road" are great guidelines there is much "gray" area when it comes to "right" and "wrong". Listen to your heart, it will always speak truth to you. I'm not here to judge only to uplift you in prayer and you will be in my prayers this New Years Eve ... Peace
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WATCH !!!!!!!!!! on 2007-12-31 10:20:40 |
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Awesome post!!! Great words to ponder on as we begin another year. Happy New Year!
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Oh Dear... on 2007-12-31 01:10:41 |
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Six years ago a close friend of mine committed suicide and all I had was questions. Why did this happen? ... how could God let this happen? Then I came across the following quote and it helped me so much. You will always have questions. I'm 54 and I still have a ton of them. They are a normal part of life. Some questions are never answered this side of heaven and we have to be content in not knowing. Keep seeking, searching and asking. Just because you have given up your virginity doesn't mean you have lost the ability to make good choices for yourself. If down the road you feel you made the wrong choice your life is NOT ruined. You go on and make different choices in the future. You might decide to wait until marriage or are in a secure loving relationship. Mistakes are NOT fatal ... they are learning tools to help you grow. Peace to you dear one. You will be in prayers.
"Have patience with everything unresolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves as if they were locked rooms or books written in a very foreign language. Don't search for the answers, which could not be given to you now, because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps then, someday far in the future, you will gradually, without even noticing it, live your way into the answer."
Rainer Maria Rilke -- Czech Poet
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Just learning the ropes on 2007-12-30 21:24:32 |
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Welcome to thoughts.com ... I'm a newbie also ... getting settled in and learning my way around. Working out my thoughts and feelings is one of my New Year's resolutions and thoughts seems to be the perfect place to do just that. I'm already feeling right at home. Good luck playing poker. Take care and enjoy your time here.
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It began when .... on 2007-12-30 21:15:59 |
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Dear Easy To Say -- I'm so sorry 2007 was a bad year for you. Life can be so unfair and lonely at times. May every wish and dream held in your heart come true in 2008. I will be keeping you in my prayers and checking back to see how you are doing. Peace & Love
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it is not my fault anymore on 2007-12-30 13:34:30 |
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Miss Marie -- Thank you for being so brave and sharing this. I'm new to thoughts and was thinking last night of some very personal and painful experiences that I should write about. I actually didn't feel I had the courage to do it, but you my dear have given me the courage to tell my story. At one time, many moons ago, before any enlightenment had come to my door I also believed everything was my fault. My abuse, some physical, was more mental in nature and not as serious as yours but still very spirit breaking. God bless you ... I love your sweet spirit.
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The Secret Garden on 2007-12-30 00:41:06 |
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I agree and always say ... the hard things in life have made me better ... not bitter.
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Hello. This will be my first entry here. on 2007-12-30 00:31:06 |
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Welcome to thoughts.com. I'm brand new also, signing up just yesterday. Thanks for reminding me that hope, love etc. are just around the corner. Write for yourself. We all need to get the things inside of us worked out. Trust me, if you do that others will read, learn and be inspired by your words. Wishing you a fantastic 2008.
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On Weight Loss on 2007-12-29 19:38:49 |
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"I am not afraid of storms, for I am learning how to sail my ship." -- Louisa May Alcott
Congratulations on the weight loss. I'm proud of you and will continue to cheer you on as you evolve body, mind and spirit.
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Im Worried on 2007-12-29 19:30:58 |
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You need to run not walk to a clinic or doctor's office. The Morning After Pill should be taken within 3 days (72 hours) of unprotected sex and can reduce the risk of pregnancy by up to 89%. But the sooner you take it the more effective it will be. I understand your concern regarding your boyfriend avoiding you, but at this moment you must take care of yourself. Also sweetie where are you in your monthly cycle. Pregnancy most often occurs in mid cycle around day 13 or 14 .... day one is the first day of your last period.
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The Disease of Hidden Love on 2007-12-29 18:10:42 |
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"Love, as a word, is memorialized in countless books, movies, poems, and musical compositions. While there are many definitions of love, its essence, when used as a verb, can be captured in a few phrases:
to care for,
to cherish,
to respect,
to honor,
to show an interest in,
to value,
or to treat with kindness."
~Francine Ward~
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The Disease of Hidden Love on 2007-12-29 15:15:12 |
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Wonderful and thoughtful post DS .... I have stood at a grave site with things left unsaid on my heart. It taught me a valuable lesson ... say what you feel, even at the risk of rejection. The hurt and pain of rejection is minor compared to the pain of someone leaving this earth never knowing someone loved and cared about them. We think we have all the time in the world ... but we only have this moment. Excuse me as I have a few "I Love You" emails and phone calls to make. Thanks for the reminder. God Bless
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New Year! YEY!!!!! on 2007-12-29 13:51:55 |
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Thanks for stopping by my blog and making me feel welcome. You are the first person to leave a comment. I'm settling in and learning my way around. After reading a few of your posts I came away inspired by your great honest writing and positive attitude. Enjoy all the beauty of CO and safe travels back to Florida. I'll be checking back to read more and see how you are doing. Peace
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The Secret Garden on 2007-12-29 01:14:59 |
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I have been reading your blog for quite some time now and couldn't leave a comment since I wasn't a member. Decided to join today and start writing out some of my thoughts and feelings (kind of a New Year's Resolution). Your posts are amazing ... "The Box", "Is God Gay" and "Suicide Will Kill You" especially spoke to me. Thanks for being a source of encouragement to me. Keep speaking what God puts on your heart ... you are an angel from Heaven. Peace & Love
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Maybe I'm Needy...lol on 2007-12-28 22:17:52 |
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During my time of crisis I wrote volumes. When I finally made an appointment to talk to someone I printed it all out and gave it to her during our first session. She didn't read it right then and there but read it over for our next session. I always say knowledge is power ... the more a counselor knows about your situation the better equipped she will be to help you. My counselor even thanked me for being so organized.
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I'm Not Crazy....Really... on 2007-12-28 21:33:27 |
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I'm here for the same reason you are ... in your very first entry you said something very profound "I like that the written word doesn't judge you, make you feel bad, or try and change your mind. It seems to just absorb what you have to say and keep it" ... Like you I have much to work out also. In the New Year I want to start moving toward that better place. I tend to be a person who says what I think others want to hear. Your honesty and courage have given me the courage to come on here and put my true feelings into words. I'm glad you made the appointment with a counselor. I'm here cheering you on. Peace & Love
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To send or not to send... on 2007-12-28 16:15:49 |
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"PLEASE keep writing" ... I'm new here and couldn't find how to edit my comment .....
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I'm Not Crazy....Really... on 2007-12-28 15:59:25 |
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Definitely more guarded than your first email to him. It depends on how much of your feelings you want to reveal to him. In your first email you bared your heart to him ... it was very honest. In this email your main worry is "what will he think" .... I want him to think that I'm OK .... but 2nd childhood you are really not OK .... are you.
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To send or not to send... on 2007-12-28 15:39:31 |
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Dear 2nd Childhood --
Hello. I'm new to this site but have been reading your blog religiously for the past several weeks. You are a fantastic writer and I'm totally hooked. However I realize that this is not a story but real life ... your life. While not identical, my circumstances are similar to yours. Every emotion and feeling you write about I have felt. I so feel for you and all your going through (hug hug). While some might criticize and judge those who have affairs they do not walk in our shoes or know our circumstances.
Your life is in crisis and you are trying to deal the best way you can. Your hurt and with your husband there is no soft safe place to fall. Sex feels very good and for a moment takes away the pain and hurt ... in a similar way that alcohol and drugs numb the pain. But when the encounter is over the pain and all life's problems are still there.
You had spoken about seeing a counselor and I think that is a fantastic idea. I would not have gotten through the difficult times in my life without counseling. Having an impartial person to talk things over with is such a God send. It also saves a ton of emotional pain and hurt that results when we make a wrong choice in our lives. I agree with your family that you are in over your head. I have had the worst luck with married men. The "not being able to talk on the phone" is common to every married man I have met. Many wives go through their husbands cell phone records and a phone call has been the undoing of many men.
I just finished reading your post "to send or not to send". I think you have expressed your feelings honestly and I vote that you send it along to Chris. It's real, open and honest and what man wouldn't respect that.
PLEASE keeping writing. I have wanted to leave you a comment for so long and decided to join today so I could do just that. I will continue checking your blog to see how you are doing. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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