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suck and swallow on 2007-08-31 13:16:56 |
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I understand that you love him, but you have to think with your brain and not be lead by your heart.
I know it's the toughest thing you'll ever do, and perhaps he'll leave you first before you leave him...but it's bound to happen either way.
I sense that your self-esteem is not where it should be. If you really think about what kind of man you're with (try to be objective), you will realize that he simply isn't good for you.
Like I said, I know it hurts, and maybe you just need to give it time...but sooner or later you will come to this realization on your own. Whenever you get fed up and can't take it anymore, you will find the courage to stand up for yourself. Right now you're in denial because you love him, but deep down inside, you know what you need to do.
Good luck.
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Look out! on 2007-08-29 12:42:02 |
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Yes, I agree. I wonder where all the philosophers have gone.
It seems no one questions the most miraculous of things...such as life itself...and why it exists...and what would be in its place if it didn't and what would the universe look like?! All those endless questions.
I still wonder about it, but it's difficult to pursue this kind of thinking when so few value it.
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Another year... and nothing's changed except my bl on 2007-08-27 14:34:49 |
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It seems you're not happy where you are living. I think you should have a SERIOUS talk with your partner about this.
You cannot and should not sacrifice your happiness and your well being for the sake of someone else's job.
You need to stand up for yourself and be happy again because you deserve it!
If the area where you live is bringing you down, talk with your partner about moving. And if you feel he doesn't understand or care, move alone, but move before you become too depressed!
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The Mirror or the Winshield? on 2007-08-27 11:25:03 |
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“The unexamined life is not worth living.”--Socrates.
I think there's a lot of truth in this. As human beings, we have the capacity to think and reflect and we owe to ourselves to use these abilities, to make our lives (and the lives of others) better.
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Another year... and nothing's changed except my bl on 2007-08-27 11:15:35 |
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Hi,
Just a question. Does "He" not allow you to have friends? or you just don't want to?
If you haven't found a job, you could volunteer during the day while he is at work, that way you're not bored playing video games at home and you get to feel useful at the same time.
Don't stop smiling! Giggle as much as your heart desires!
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ummm spanish blog? on 2007-08-24 12:27:50 |
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Now do your into in Spanish. lol.
Que bueno que te gusta el español. Seguro aprenderas muy rapido.
Buena suerte!
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Staying single may shorten life span on 2007-08-24 12:10:48 |
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I think it comes down to two things.
1. Married people make more social connections. Kids, etc. It's double everything...friends, extended family, etc, This equals more social support in times of need, which brings me to...
2. Two incomes, not one (in most cases). Financial support from your spouse is sure to alleviate stress...Versus having to deal with all financial responsiblities on your own.
Put the two together and you're likely to live longer. THe social and the financial are met mostly through marriage.
That's what I think anyway. I don't think it's actually being "married" that prolongs your life.
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Gray Eyes - A Poem on 2007-08-24 12:03:11 |
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Very sweet! Make sure Aidyn gets a copy for when he's old enough to understand :P
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falling in love with yourself on 2007-08-24 11:56:27 |
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I think it's a natural process. It seems shallow...but no one works out, gets results and then refuses to look in the mirror..lol.
I suppose it's a moment of pride and of realization that with your hard work and effort, you made this happen and it paid off.
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Dont judge me, please. on 2007-08-24 11:52:18 |
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Hi,
I gather that one of the problems is that you care too much about what people think.
Everyone cares, but you can't let that be a deciding factor in your life, because trust me, no matter what you do, people WILL judge you. Whether you're emo, a cheerleader, a "nerd"...that's exactly it, people will label you, so just let it roll off your shoulders!!!
As far as hanging out with people you dislike...slowly get away from them and make the effort to befriend someone else you can hang out with. Join an after school activity where you know the "type" of people you like will be there...for example, if you like the Artsy type...join the Art Club, Yearbook Club..if you like to be around athletic people, join the Fitness club and so on.
You have to make a conscious effort to be happy and stop pleasing others because YOU are the most important person.
If your dad is not willing to let you choose what school you go to, suck it up! and make the best of it. Don't dwell on it, if you have tried to talk to him and know he won't change his mind, then just make the best of it.
Well this is getting long...Hope it helps even if just a little!
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Why do women play this card? on 2007-08-24 07:30:09 |
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I suppose sometimes we "hope" it works out the second time around.
But you're right, people don't change.
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the "right one" on 2007-08-23 09:12:26 |
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Just enjoy it. Obviously as the relationship matures there will be arguments but that's normal!
As far as him being "the one" I think many people could be "the one". It depends how hard we're willing to work at it and how compatible you are to begin with. Life is not a fairy tale and relationships require a lot of hard work to make them work...but they can be so rewarding!!
I say enjoy you bf (he seems sweet from what you say)...but don't dive full force into it with all your heart. At least at first, don't love foolishly and be naive...just in case!
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God, I need to write. on 2007-08-23 09:01:27 |
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Ahh...LonelyOne...Thanks for sharing your thoughts. Now, for my unsolicited advice...
I think you and Juan didn't give yourselves enough time to get to know one another before getting engaged and then married. You have acknowledged this yourself.
However, I'd suggest you give it a shot. I mean, sincerely and from the heart.
Have a kind gesture towards your husband and good things will follow. Good actions trigger more good actions.
Try to slowly get him to be in the same page as you. Everything from going to bed at the same time, all the way to getting him to know your mind.
Also, I think things will change for the better when you guys start school again. You both will have new things to think about and will not be in each other's faces all day everyday.
I sense your deep sadness, but I think that there is hope for the two of you if you're willing to make the first move towards reconciliation. You can't control what others do, but you can control what YOU do.
So go ahead! Romance him!
You married him for a reason. Think of those happy days with Juan and bring them back.
You need each other, specially now that you've moved to a new place where both of you don't have family.
You have each other. You are not alone.
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Fact or Myth or Opinion on 2007-08-23 08:29:52 |
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Yes. In every relationship one loves the other one more. My mother always said to me: "be with whomever loves YOU, not with whom YOU love". I think she might've been right. In my relationship, I love him more than he loves me and I suffer for it.
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