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I am posting this hoping some of you will comment. I just feel so lost and so alone sometimes.
Here is my problem:
My fiance had been planning a camping trip with his friends for months. Everyone has been so excited about it with email and phone calls firing off the wall. I was planning on taking Friday off so we could make it a long weekend. Unfortunately, I can't take time off because I've been missing too many hours from work to go to job interviews. I told him I can't jeopardize my job...but he doesn't see it that way.
I told him to look at the bigger picture...I'm trying to better our situation for both of us (and future children) by looking for a better job. I know the timing of these interviews was so bad, but how was I to know I would be called for two interviews during the same week as this camping trip?
I recently got back from visiting my family in another country...So he says I don't care about him because I took my vacation already. I explained that this was not a typical vacation. I hadn't been to my country in 14 years and hadn't seen my grandpa who is turning 90yrs old this year and most likely won't be around for much longer.
I feel so bad letting my fiance down because I know he was looking forward to this trip. I told him we can still go and leave Friday after work and come back Sunday night...but he's not having it. He wants a long weekend.
The worst part is that he just emailed me to tell me he might still leave today (Thurs night) without me. I said "If it means that much to you, go ahead."
I'm not trying to play the victim here, but I just wish he would understand that I've been under a lot of stress lately preparing for interviews and missing work (my boss is on to me!), and also trying to not let him down all at the same time.
*Camping trip = drink fest.
Can someone please tell me what they think about this? I'm so confused!
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Posted by Cecy24 on 2008-07-03 10:15:23 | Rating: | Views: 107
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I think your life partner should be more sympathetic to the things going on in your life. It strikes me as selfish to not make a compromise that means that you can keep your current job and you can both share a weekend away together - just 2 days instead of 3.
Sounds like he still needs to sort out his priorities...
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Posted by crashing_down
on 2008-07-03 10:21:10
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I think he's being horribly selfish here. First I would try explaining it to him, in terms he can understand - maybe how disappointed you are that your boss's actions are preventing you from going away with him on the day he would like, how you feel you're letting him down but you don't want to lose your job and have to be a financial burden on him... i.e. make it all about him.
If that doesn't work, I'd say fine, go without me, have a great weekend, see you next week. Because you really don't need the added stress of his hissy fit right now.
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Posted by ISBWD
on 2008-07-04 03:06:59
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I agree with advices above.
And, you know, if he loves you, I think he should respect your life, your problems, your feelings and not to think only about himself.
There are two solutions, I think : 1)you both try to make compromise,2)you stay, he goes. But you shouldn't give up your job and spit on your interests.
Anyway, good luck to you! Listen to your heart and intuition and they will prompt you to a right decision.
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Posted by LuckyJulia
on 2008-07-04 13:43:07
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I think you are playing the victim in every blog that I read from you...You act so weak that the world is out to get you and yet so strong when it is convenient for you....I surely hope your man has patience enough to deal with your sabotage trickery…I do not know when or how you lost your self-esteem but you better get it back you only have one life to live and you should live it accordingly with God and Your Happiness at the forefront of your existence…and stop making sorry ass excuses so we can cheer you on with your indecision…be the women God intended for you to be
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Posted by JLOyola
on 2008-07-05 03:45:57
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Thank you everyone for your comments. We ended up leaving Thursday night. Our weekend was okay...Too much drinking involved (not by us, but other ppl)...sort of reminded me of high school...but anyway, it's done and over with.
I appreciate everyone's advice.
Thank you for reading!
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Posted by Cecy24
on 2008-07-07 10:22:28
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