Posted by
bevel
on 2007-12-31 16:47:11 |
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I can imagine what you are going through. Well, it's a good thing hubby and mom washed the dishes...I'm wondering whose idea was it to initate that plan...I bet mom's.
If only we could think to discuss these things in the dating phases (guess, we girls can't think of it all). It's strange how much you can discover after the "I Do's".
His belief systems it seems...is very "old fashioned" ...times have changed...Today you are finding partners exchanging "Roles" even. It sure wouldn't hurt for him to bend a bit. But as the saying goes "It's hard to teach Old dogs/New tricks!
Here it sounds like you are willing to bend a bit harder...to improve things. Maybe, making this task of improvement...more of your personal goal than his, will give you more motivation to do so.
Also, try determining are his gripes associated with under-lying issues, or some form of mis-placed anger OR is this really all about improving on the chores...or maybe both even. Once, you fully understand the orgin of this all, it might help you to better solve this problem...hope this helps to shed a bit of light. Take care and you guys have a prosperous and blessed N/Y!!! |
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Posted by
VANITYVONDARK
on 2008-01-01 13:17:07 |
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Obviously he was raised in a shovanistice world,I mean it's 2008, not 1908,did it kill him to do the dishes?I don't think that a person who "loves" you should ever get so mad that they say they hate you especially not over dishes!Thats abuse, it's not always physical abuse thats bad , verbal abuse is mental abuse and that can be more damaging, you deserve to be happy and not walking on egg shells worried that if you didn't clean something quick enough your going to be yelled at or put down.You really can't teach an old dog new tricks...and I don't think that you should have to do all of the bending and feel bad just so that someone else can be happy.
well you take care of yourself. |
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Posted by
Cecy24
on 2008-01-03 16:30:48 |
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Thank you for your comments. I feel exactly like I'm walking on egg shells. I feel like I'm constantly being watched.
In any case, thanks again for the comments...at least I know my view is not completely unjustified. |
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Posted by
EasyToSay
on 2008-02-28 14:51:22 |
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Can I just add - if you are intending on marrying this guy, maybe you need to sit down with him and give him your thoughts on marriage - if you think it is a joint union - whereby both of you will work TOGETHER on everything - you need to make sure he is on the same page.
GOod Luck .... and get out of the kitchen! |
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Posted by
OKOFCOURSE
on 2008-04-10 07:49:27 |
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| Don't get mad at him just say the next time he can cook dinner and you'll do the dishes. |
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Posted by
sean_barr
on 2008-04-12 13:06:59 |
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| Dear lord. Him calling you "useless" over not doing dishes is ABUSIVE. No two ways about it. Sure you want to live with someone forever with that kind of temper? Dishes???? |
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Posted by
dreampower
on 2008-04-17 17:03:48 |
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| OMG, Next time use paper plates (the nice ones but still...) and then there will be no more dishes to wash. He can go with his mother and u can talk with dad. What I really think is u should rethink this marriage thing. Do u want to marry someone that makes u feel so bad about unwashed dishes? ty |
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