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Apologies, I just have something else turning in my mind.
Someone (not a believer) said to me something to the effect that when we marry, there's no way to know if you're going to be compatible in the future. At that point, you move on and find someone you can be happy with.
Bull.
Problems in relationships all stem from ONE THING. Selfishness. Desires for someone to "make you happy", validate you, enjoy life with, complete you. Get that stuff from God, that's where you're supposed to look anyway.
As far as compatibility, I agree people change and that person you marry may be totally different to where you don't enjoy the same things together that you did in the past. "Past" being a key word there. What then? You don't like your spouse anymore and now you're not happy. Pray. The problem is inside you. You have to see other people the way God sees them, then you will have Godly love for one another, not love that's dependent on personality traits, similar interests, or other fleeting things.
Another situation is one in which one person is being cruel to the other, physically and/or emotionally. An awesome book I read on this is by James Dobson called, "Love Must Be Tough". Jesus was not a doormat and if we are supposed to pattern our lives after Him, you shouldn't be a doormat either. Separating yourself from someone who is trying to hurt you is not wrong. Being angry, bitter and retaliatory is. There is this scripture written by Paul in 1st Corinthians 7:
10 To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11 But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.
So there it is. I've had verse 10 quoted to me as proof that I'm in sin. But they left verse 11 out.
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Posted by BrokenBeautifully on 2008-01-11 17:47:48 | Rating: | Views: 70
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