Oh Blossom my heart sank reading this post. You are in no way a Jonah. It does sound like you could use a big hug and maybe a good cry. You have been through so much in such a short time you have probably not even had time to catch your breath. The grieving process is different for everyone, but it is a process. I am so sorry for your losses. I wish I could promise there would be no more, but life is not like that. You have so very much to look forward to in life, please do not let yourself think those thoughts. HUGS to you, Bia. You did not make these deaths happen.

I don't see that these misfortunes would make you a Jonah. I've been tossed overboard, many times. I always end up where I'm supposed to be. It has been a rough ride, at times. T%hat describes a Jonah.

Someone who writes with sensitivity, who questions herself, who grieves with all her heart is not the cause of any bad luck. She is a victim herself of the consequences that surround her. It may be bad luck but it isn't originating from you, how could it? You are a graceful and lovely being.

Those things have nothing to do with you. We all at times feel that we are somehow responsible for the bad things that happen around us. Ask yourself is there anything you could have done to change these deaths. The answer is no. It is hard to accept that we are powerless over the tragedies that happen to those we love, so we begin to wonder; are we cursed or jinxed?

We think; if only I had/hadn't... We all struggle with these thoughts. I went through it just last week over the death of a dear friend that happened years ago. He was supposed to go to the club with us. When he didn't call I blew off calling him. I woke up the next to someone telling me he died in a car wreck. There's more and I should blog about it, but I have worked up the courage yet.

The thoughts and feeling are natural. They're way of trying to cope when the unthinkable happens. We have to learn to recognize and acknowledge, but to not beat ourselves up about them. The last things our loved ones would want is for us to suffer with destructive feelings of guilt.

You have my sympathy and a big ((Hug)) if you need it.

I'm so sorry to hear about your niece, Bia. I'm also sorry that you are feeling such guilt over things that you had no control over. Please let that go. XX

No, you're not! Just as simple as that. My brother believes that our father passed on bad luck to him and thence to our sons as his father did before him. I don't believe in any of that. Apart from Mathias, your sister Olivia has also shared the same grief, so it isn't just you. Don't look into the future too closely B, just take it day by day and live it to the full.

You should not take on board such a burden of worry. No doubt it was nothing more than a flippant remark from your sister that did not have the intention of injury. I read on Thoughts.com a lot as I am physically restricted and it helps to bring me into contact with the greater world and so I have read most everything you and many of the longtime regulars have written. You young Miss write with a great intelligence of mind, a very tender heart and a luminescent soul, only those with a hardened heart and a jealous soul would ever think of you as bad luck or in any negative light. Keep being the complete beautiful perso you are and forge ahead with a lightness and positivity. (: