Thoughts.com Blogs - Toxic Friends: Saying Goodbye to the Bitch!!!!

Toxic friends come into your life at several different stages. Impaling your life with intense similarities, exciting connections and late night talks that build memories you will believe are too much to give up. Most times a Toxic friend has been at your side since your younger days. You painted toes together or made a weekly trip to the basketball courts. Yes, toxic friends can be both male and female but usually only compact same sex friendships. Toxic friends are usually jealous and want to navigate your happy days into dreary days. Today I will speak out loud about the bitches of Eastwick who scandalize our lives with random hookups with our boyfriends or girlfriends. Who seemed straight from the first day you met them to find out they once you had a girlfriend suddenly fucking girls was an option. What the fuck ever...t hey are the fake bitches of the world. Not able to pull enough fuck buddies for themselves. But toxic friends don't just sleep with your close special someone, they also, go after the job you talked about forever, or bought the pair of shoes that you so desperately wanted. OH the Toxic friend wants not to see you happy. All they want is to see they're own endeavors play out better than yours. They use you as material for their current comedy routine at game night,an age old tradition. They tell your most intimate secrets and leave you to clean up the mess. They are also the friends that die beneath the envy when you have got the hot boyfriend or girlfriend. They want what you have. Ladies and gentlemen if you are suffering from such an ailment, IT'S TIME TO LET THAT BITCH GO.
My first year of high school, a friend of mine and I that went to Junior High School with me , fell into a crowd of girls who had also been friends since Junior High School. Just miles apart at another close JHS they had began a budding friendship. When we entered the halls of the Urban Private School that would become the place of legends for us, we found each other and made one big click. Through out the throws of high school we stayed a close nit bunch. Laughing together, changing to together, three out of five of us became cheerleaders, one other played softball, while the other took on acting. We found the niche in each other and we supported one another. We even stayed friends several years after graduating high school. Around senior year, the unexplainable happened. My mother moved me to a suburb, lucky for me she found the errors of her ways per my grams and let me go back to the school where I was a star. Christian leader, cheerleader, poet, actor and world renowned friend! I had missed try outs for cheerleading... little did I know how happy my supposed best friend was with my failure. Early in football season a friend’s parent asked me... "Why are you not cheering sweetie, you were the only one down there with any talent. You always had so much spunk and enthusiasm." Well I made the grand mistake of saying this very thing to my best friend, since I was more than sad that I hadn't been able to join the girls for our last year in high school as a SONGLEADER (cuz I danced). Well she reminded me that I was just mad that she was on the squad. This was not true. I should have seen the error of her ways then. But I didn't. We were friends; we had been through so many things together. Not just boyfriends and bad hair, but real life issues. These were my girls.
Her first offense was not against me. Most people believe that the two most important men in a heterosexual woman’s life are her first love and the man who is the father of her children. Yes ladies and gentleman you have guessed it. A close friend of ours had to endure her jealously by living with the fact that this woman whom had been her friend much longer than mine had slept with the man she lost her virginity to, and the father of her first child. This sent me into an uproar. But many other instances would come to my attention as well. As I proudly state I am a gay woman, but I wasn't always. My coming out affair was later in life and with a drop dead sexy woman. Yes ladies and Gents...she made a play for my girl as well. IF I met other women that I just wanted to be friends with, she would tarnish my name to make herself look like the better friend. This is an illness... I am going to categorize this behavior under toxic friend. Yes, I had to send her packing. Or better yet, when she realized she couldn't step on me a day longer she sent me packing. OH we had been friends for years... If you watch Girlfriends... you will understand they we had that JOAN and TONI relationship. I had to let that bitch go.
If you are suffering under the prowess of a toxic friend, be strong and realize that anyone would do things such as this to you is no friend. If you give and give and give, with no return on your investment, then say goodbye. Sometimes the wrong kind of friend can stifle your personal progression and I want better for all of you...