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If you believe in Jesus and the whole mainstream instance of religion, you are taught that forgiveness is one of the keys into the holy home of the after life. If you believe in the more pagan beliefs of karma, you know that whatever you do will come back to you ten fold. Whether it is was a lesson taught by your parents, elders or religion, forgiveness is something that we are taught to do. Yet, how do you forgive the crimes of the heart, crimes that end in death, or the crimes of betrayal. It's much easier to say yes I forgive you when someone accidentally bumps into you on the subway, or boarding a thrill ride. But how do you forgive those you have hurt you so deeply that just the sight of them is a reminder of the things that penetrated the entirety of your being.
Watching the news, and reading stories of non fiction I look at the different scenarios in life that cause of us as humans to take pause. I have been taking pause in the heights of my own personal life and finding it more than a difficult task to forgive someone who has hurt me or betrayed me; whether it be in the professional contexts of a job or the more sensual and emotional parameters of my relationships.
Yet, I do take the time and forgive those who trespass against me, because I to want to be forgiven. Incidently, the last several months I have been in the self made hell of my own making. I had disrespected my relationship and justified my reasons for doing so. It's when I started to understand that a sincere apology is the only apology that is due a true and sincere forgiveness. Forgiveness for repeat offenses is something that I would leave to the divine. I would use my belief in my Christain background to pray and ask for strength to forgive. I have done many things in my lifetime that I have asked for forgiveness and went right back and have done the same thing. Believing in Karma which was a self taught belief has lead to make choices within a different frame of mind. I don't want this to happen to me so I damn well better not do it.
Somewhere in this world, someone sits at a job... and I am reaching out to her asking for forgivness. Forgiveness for a pain inflicted that has scared and wounded so deep that just the mere mention of my name sends them into emotional fury. Beneath all feelings and attachments to someone is sincere desire to still benefit from this person in one's life, in short the act of caring is still present. The act of caring is not controlled by the mind. When you still care about a wrong that someone has done to you even after a sincere apology, you are searching for a change in someone. A change in your relationship, or an acceptance of what is!
I am not a logical person, I think creatively and emotionally. I have wanted to change that part about me because it's causes a certain amount of spontaneity in my decision making that can be explosive and detrimental to myself and those around me.
Anything can be forgiven; forgiveness is a showmanship of love and understanding. It's hard to forget the things that people do to us that leave scars. Whether those scars are emotional or physical, they can and do heal. Forgiveness is about control, and positive thinking.
What I give to all you out there is that you forgive the people who have wronged you. Hanging on to the negative thinking will not scar them, it will scar you. People will do things wrong and act selfishly, it is apart of our nature. Not forgiving is just as bad as not asking to be forgiven, just as bad as not looking into what you did, and stating I was wrong for this. IF you don't agree then exit that person's world. Allow them the time to come to turns with your actions. And when it's all said and done, if you have a chance to redeem your true intentions, DO NOT SPEAK OF THE UNFORGIVEN. The secondary entrance into who they are and the world that they have allowed you to penetrate is the key to the forgiveness they desire to bestow upon you. Sometimes we don't forget and we use that memory as a safety net. BUT people can and do change...never give up on that fact.
HUGS and BESOS
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Posted by BitterSweetNy on 2008-03-12 19:46:21 | Rating: | Views: 86
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This post really hit home for me today. I ad to learn the hard way on how to forgive and after I did it I felt so much better.
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Posted by Nubian
on 2008-03-14 02:15:24
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ISAIAH CHAPTER 7
15 Butter and honey shall he eat, that he may know to refuse the evil, and choose the good.
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Posted by QUICKCAT33
on 2008-03-14 08:30:49
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I must admit Nubian that it was hard for me to forgive as well. But once I let go of what I could not change and accept a person as they were. I was much happier and letting go of my anger allowed me to help others instead of condemn them. HUGS AND KISSES
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Posted by BitterSweetNy
on 2008-03-14 13:00:30
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