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One thing I guess that I really can't stand is when someone judges me before even meeting me. I understand as people we like to visualize and rationalize things we don't understand. But when did judgement come into play. When did one person become better than the next, and given the right to pass their views on as "what is right by the world". Its total bs if you ask me. Maybe I am naive at 23 thinking once in a while I will actually be understood for the decisions I've made as a young adult rather than looked down on for them. Is it so bad that in my heart and mind I still in 2008 see the good in people even when they show me their worst? Is it really so bad that when slapped I turn the other cheek, or when I loose a shoe I act as if it's some new fashion trend everyone should be hip to? I live my life happily upbeat and full of possitivity. I know I may sound like an absolute hippie, but I do believe in peace love and harmony just not in that 70's tie-dye way. You may be thinking goodness at 23 what could this child possibly know about judgement, ridicule, negativity, and so on. I tell it this way. I was born in raised in the city of San Pablo CA, located right next door, I appologize, actually smack in the center of Richmond CA. Which if you didn't know, is currenly ranked 9 out of 10 cities with the highest homicide rates in the US. So violence I know a little about that. I know about a boy who went home everyday on his lunch break in highschool to ensure his grandmother ate, and on the way back was gunned down and died in the front coridor of my highschool. I know about drug addiction because thankfully my parents were able to begin recovery from theirs when I made the transition from Jr High to High School. I know about struggling b/c after a 8 year relationship with my highschool sweetheart I am left to care for our daughter. You are probably judging me now thinking wow some crackheads kid has a baby ... next. But no my parents actually did a great job of raising me and they never gave one hint of their addiction in out upbringing. From K-3rd grade I attended private catholic school where morals were sewn into my roots. Im 23 and even though I haven't been with my highschool sweetheart in about 1 year. At 23 Ive still only slept with one person and can count the ammount of people Ive kissed on 1 hand. Im now a single mom, because I chose to walk away from an unhealthy relationship that would have torn me and broken me had I stayed any longer. I work 40 hrs a week at a job I began soon after the birth of my daughter, and in the last year was promoted at that job. I rent a house just my daughter and I in the Bay Area which is one of the most expensive places to live in the US. I drive my own car, pay my own insurance, my own PG&E, my own student loan. I have my life in order. And just because of the city I grew up in and the fact that I am a single mother I am judged and looked down upon as inferior. Inferior to who I ask? Your 17 year old daughter who got pregnant and had an abortion behind your back, sorry I believe in taking care of my responsibilites not pretending they never existed. Don't get me wrong, I fully believe in a womans right to choose b/c I know God is the only person that can ever judge things of that magnitude. Sin is sin, so whether it was an abortion, having a child out of wedlock, or stealing that 25 cent pack of gum. We are all sinners. So why is it I am judged so fiercely.