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This week has been a busy one. Good thing I rested Sunday because after that .. it is now Saturday! By Monday morning got a call first thing in the morning from the hospital. My elderly aunt has been in there since last Wednesday! By the time I got there she was alright. But that evening when I got back she couldn't speak well & didn't know I was there. Later found out she was on some strong meds that did that to her. I remember her telling me she gets like that from time to time from the meds. She's 75 and has liver cancer. Her Dr. told us that it's all over in her body already. She knows it but doesn't let that keep her down. She lives her life to the fullest. She isn't one to stay in bed and let it keep her there without living. Her kidney's are failing and she recently had a blockage in her leg which was why she was in the hospital this time. It could've taken her this time but it was caught just in time. She is a diabetic but doesn't take chemo & won't do dialysis either. That's her choice so I won't even try to get her to do that. She seen & heard of how others have done with those. So she didn't want anything to do with those.That's how I am to. I watch & notice how others are and make my mind up on the serious things after thinking about those hard choices that we have to make in life. That's why it's said "live & learn". There are people who jump into things without really thinking it over on how you would feel after every things done. And don't regret the choices you've made.
Well after everything settled down. There was a choice that had to be made. First of all she signed me as her health power of attorney. Then after speaking to her Dr. I thought it would be best for her to be in a rehabilitation ctr. to get her strength up and hope nothing else would come up but if it did she'd have help available in the center. We did speak of her going into a home earlier this year because of her health and she doesn't have anyone living with her to make sure she eats properly & gets all the other things done for her that she is unable to do. She was just getting worse with time. I saw it but she told me she was fine but I knew something would have to be done eventually and now that time is here. So ... it's going to get harder as she gets older but everything should be a little easier for her there, I hope. We spoke about this ever happening. At first I didn't like the idea of her going in there - hearing about all the horror stories from other patients family members but I heard more good than bad about the place she is in so we'll see from here on. If it doesn't work out she still has her home. Someone is there taking care of that end. But time will tell.

Posted by Ashion on 2009-10-24 13:43:44 | Rating:

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I hope your aunts remaining life...will go smoothly for her. I lost my mother to cancer 4 years ago, so I know how that can become. A good friend of mine's, dad...had to be on dialysis, and he was fine with it. In fact, he loved going b/c of the friends he'd made at the center!!

I hope all the people that take care of you're aunt, are good. I hope no one strips her dignity away from her. Some of these places just love to boss and tell the elderly what to do and are mean..in your aunts case, I wish her the best.

...dani

Posted by WalkinOnSunshine on 2009-10-25 17:23:35

Luckily she'll tell one of us and we'll take her out at first sign and figure something out. No one should treat others bad especially in their last days. Thanks for your comment.

Posted by Ashion on 2009-10-25 17:42:47