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I enjoy life and just about everything the world has to offer us........ except the general public, AKA the heards of sheep. I am not a writer. I am not very creative with my words. I am creative with my thoughts and ideas. I would like to consider myself as a half-sheep. Someone who encourages people to be honest and true. To do what they enjoy and what feels right...... and not to act based on what the heard does or what is expected of them. However, as a society and for us to all get along in the best possible way with the information we have, there are some things that we all must conform too. Making us sheep. |
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damn...... reminds me of college. Or at least what I remember from college. (posted in
Still feeling the hangover)
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I've said those words before, when I was young and didn’t know any better. And I haven't, nor will I EVER say them again.
Everyone has baggage, and if someone tells you they don't, then you know they may have more baggage then they realize. If you ask me, thats even worse.
To me baggage is something a person has that they can't overcome. Like a drug addiction. If someone is using a drug, and it affects their life and people in that life, then that would be some baggage. An “X” can easily be baggage if he threatens the new guy or won’t leave you alone, or you can’t get over him. Many women have father issues with their daddy’s. There are many things in life that can become excess baggage.
Being divorced is not baggage,… if you can accept it and move on without holding on to the past. Many people keep divorce as a baggage because they think things might get back to the way they ONCE were, or many other excuses.
The kids can be baggage. They take up a lot of time, energy, money, attention, affection, you name it. But they man you want to date......... simple won't care. Maybe he's got some kids of his own and he understands how hard it can be. Or maybe he just loves kids and can relate to what you must be dealing with.
At some point you need to make it clear to these men or “the Man” of what you are looking for and expect in a new lover. Especially when it comes to your children. I’ve read or heard recently that men feel that they need to be the savior. The Hero’s tale. Or maybe that’s just American men. Not sure on that one. It can be overwhelming for some men to date woman with children for fear of not living up to the expectations, or for being thrown into the father role before they are ready.
I’ve dated woman with kids, and it was fine because I knew, or I made it clear that I wasn’t ready to play the father role. It didn’t work out, but that wasn’t because of the kids. I’ve also meet many nice people on dating web sites. I don’t think there is anything wrong with that. It’s a nice way to find out information about them before you actually meet them. Dating is hard, and why not get a jump start to make the experience a little easier and better. Plus you have better odds at meeting the right person for you in this new life you have online, then you would at randomly meeting someone on the street or at a bar.
Sorry its long......Just my thoughts.....
(posted in
Define (excess) Baggage ...)
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I hope my advice is working for you. I'm glad to hear you are holding your grounds and not apologizing!!
I don't think he has any hidden agenda with the kids. I think he is making a step in the right direction and is attempting to reconnect with them. Which, at this age will be very important. They already don't want to go over there, when in fact, they should want to spend time with their father. The sooner the better. I know they already have plans and I'm sure the kids will be crushed if they didn't go. But in the long run what will be more important. Spending a night with a friend, or taking the first step to reconnect with the father.
If I was foty, I would just move the sleep over back a night to accomodate everyone involved. (posted in
Change of heart? or hidden agenda?)
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