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is America ever going to grow up about sex? folks, it ain't mystical, God invented it and is ecstatic when it is working for us. it is a combination of two humans, and e. e. cummings said each person is a little universe. so the combination of any two folks is different from any other two folks. that is why the marriage bed is undefiled. i can't do it your way. i am a straight guy, so it would take at the very least a female who didn't smell like the Ohio River. if we were hooking up to throw a pup, we would do it "our" way. no other combination of humans would be the same.
there are bad matches. like a St. Bernard and a Chihuahua. at the end of their hook-up, the St. Bernard would be apologizing for being a big clumsy guy and the Chihuahua would be weeping because she wasn't "woman enough" for the St. Bernard. well, duh. you don't have couple issues. you have couPLING issues. the St. Bernard needs a stomach staple or the Chihuahua needs an extension coupling wire. small end, her. BIG end, him. or you could couple with someone your own size. but rating yourself on sex is a little non-sensical.
"but i don't have his drive." nope. before i restricted my counseling to kids, i counseled over 2700 couples. not one couple had "matching drives." most of them didn't have the same sports interests. many didn't know the other's favorite color. ladies, men are not going for the feeling of "doin it." boys are. but men are after the absolute surrender that hits after he looks and sounds like a donkey. it goes back to the thing we discussed before. she needs intimacy to hit the high notes (ahem ... trying to keep it PG) and he needs to honk like a goose to get to surrender and intimacy. during the day, men have the attention span of monkeys. if you want a shoulder massage, don't wait for him to be inspired. you'll be waiting for years. rub his shoulders and when he has sighed a few times, say, "my turn!" and flop down on a chair in front of him. then DO NOT say, "we should do this once a week." "should" is a guilt word. and scheduling is imprisoning to men on things like this. keep it fun. kiss his forehead and thank him. then go do stuff.
kids play. adults have sex. attention is intimacy. you don't have to touch to be intimate. and as we hippies proved to our despair, you don't have to be intimate to touch. but enjoying another person is intimacy whether there is touching or not. you can't enjoy someone you don't like. there is a passage in Scripture that i have never understood. it says that marriage partners should not say no to each other sexually unless there is agreement to lay off for a little bit for spiritual growth and whatever. (
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Posted by AllThingsBuck on 2008-02-28 17:27:38 | Rating: | Views: 81
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another post cut off in the middle. this sucks
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Posted by AllThingsBuck
on 2008-02-28 17:29:07
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What's the point?
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Posted by penumbra88
on 2008-02-28 17:34:08
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nice blog, thankyou
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Posted by bjm1
on 2008-02-28 17:41:37
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Excellent post, thank you. I really enjoy your take on the sexes and sex, makes sense to me! We're all wired differently, for sure. Be well. Peace.
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Posted by Ellie2008
on 2008-02-28 18:24:03
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penumbra, how can there be a point if the mind is non-working? silly.
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Posted by AllThingsBuck
on 2008-02-28 19:23:09
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ellie, thank you. i make sense twice a year. you happened to catch one.
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Posted by AllThingsBuck
on 2008-02-28 19:24:50
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