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So I'm riding shotgun in our Chevy Lumina, stuck between the desicion of covering my nose with my hockey sweat covered sweatshirt, or smell my dad's cigarrette smoke when I started thinking...
...and yes, it hurt.
Anyways, I started thinking about relationships, especially the one's I had with my two previous boyfriends. Now the first one was sort of an obligatory relationship, meaning I sort of felt obliged to go out with him, I was young and naive then. Anyways that relationship lasted for only a few months before I realized he was more of a brother than a boyfriend.
The second boyfriend was my best friend who seemed perfect. He was blond haired, blue eyed, tall, lanky, and - according to every other girl in the school- gorgeous. Not that I didn't think he was attractive, I saw more personality in him than good looks.
'Course Mr. Right turned out to be Mr. Creepy. He barely let me have my own space. He followed me everywhere, as in I walked from one end of a room to another and he followed me like a puppy. Now some of you out there might thing that that's cute, but let me tell you, it gets old fast. I finally realized I had to let him go after he basically asked me to write out a list of rules for him to follow in our realtionship.
After I broke up with him ( and he still does this) he resorted to "ignoring" me, "hating" all the things I liked, playing hard to get (doesn't work when the other party isn't interested), he even went as far as to lie in the school newspaper just to get back at me.
Anyways this rant isn't about my ex-boyfriends, but about girls finding Mr. or Ms. Right. I think our biggest problem is our standards, even if we say we don't have any, we still set them too high. I know what I look for in a guy might be hard to find, my standards aren't that high, but the combination I want is hard to find.
For example, what my perfect guy would be like is: Smart, capable of holding a conversation, like me for what I like and who I am, like video games, play ice hockey, be sweet and sensative when the time calls for it, and at least be nice to look at(I'm not talking movie star here).
In our world that's like trying to find a college that offers degrees in digital art, support a women's ice hockey team, guarantee dorms, and be in state.
I'm not saying we have to let a guy walk all over us, and I'm not saying that we shouldn't have standards at all, but I think we should be a but more forgiving in our standards. Like at this point I'd love to have a guy that's nice to look at, likes me, and plays ice hockey (not hard to find, just none that like me as girlfriend material). I doubt we're going to find our proverbial knight and shining armor, so maybe we should settle for as close as we can get.
The other thing that discourages many girls is that they aren't or don't think they're supermodel pretty. I think many of us have been brainwashed by the media into thinking we have to look like the movie stars and the supermodels and we don't know how to work with the beauty we all ready have. I have a lot of guy friends and when I poll them about what they'd like better, a bony-near anorexic supermodel or a fit girl with a bit of padding they all tell me that they'd rather have the padding. The supermodel would make a great one night stand, but the girl with a bit of padding would be the one they always want to come home to.
In other words: work with what you've got, maybe pick up a fashion mag or two or surf the net to figure out how to accent your gorgeous eyes, or your amazing hair, or maybe your curves.
AND ALWAYS REMEMBER CURVES ARE GOOD! GUYS LIKE CURVES!
Another thing I think we don't spend too much time thinking about is the fact that guys know about as much about us as we know about them. I think in a lot of relationships neither party is willing to step up and say what they like and what they don't like. And many times the girl expects the guy to be able to handle everything. I think the girl should be able to jump in and say "hey I HATE romance movies, why don't we check out a hockey game instead of going to see Atonement!" Instead of letting the guy assume that all girls only want to see romance movies with their boyfriends and making both of you miserable you should step up and do a little of what both parties like.
Okay this post is getting long so in summary:
1. be flexible when searching for a relationship.
2. Curves are better than bones.
3. Going dutch/agreeing to do a little of what everyone likes is not a bad thing.
4. HOCKEY STANK NEVER GOES AWAY!!! 0.0
With Wuv,
~AcidRayne
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Posted by AcidRayne on 2008-01-22 20:29:22 | Rating: | Views: 69
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