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Well..how do I explain myself. Payton place I am not. I'm sure those of you reading this will disagree. Drama dude, the drama.
Where do I begin? I truly believe the Internet to be an amazing invention. The social aspect unmatched. Here lies my dilemma. I think I am in love with a woman.
I am a married man going on twenty five years. My children are teenagers. My wife and myself have become more like room mates than spouses. I am lonely. I crave someone to talk with, to become intimate with. I have found such a person, purely by accident on line. Her chemistry has me in a trance. I haven't felt like this since I was a teenager. I am confused. I am not suppose to feel like this about a woman other than my spouse. Yet here I am totally head over heels infactuated by this woman. She is no slouch. Educated with multiple masters degrees, a teacher for over twenty years, she can be intimidating to those around her. She finds me attractive and compatible in our likes and dislikes. Unlike myself, she is divorced and lives alone. She has grown shildren. She feels the same way about me. Dam how did this happen.
Here we are..like kids talking online until dawn. She has to get up to teach. How she will keep her body clock on track is beyond me. There is no doubt in my mind she too has found herself in a situation she wasnt looking for.
We will talk once again on the phone Monday...stay tuned..I'm in over my head.
Advice welcome
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Posted by Abstract on 2008-01-13 07:24:39 | Rating: | Views: 112
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Wow, interesting. I've always wondered what motivates married men to have affairs. I can understand getting bored of the same person. Eternal one on one devotion only exists in the Notebook.
My advice- do NOT pursue it, decease contact immediately if you don't want to risk your relationship with your wife and kids. Men and women cannot be friends, unless one of them is very VERY unattractive.
However, if you are willing to risk it all for happiness then ask the damned teach to have coffee with you, just don't be an assehole and drag both women along. Nobody wants to be the guy who is 'separated' but is really straddling two women.
That is all.
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Posted by CynicalSweetheart
on 2008-01-13 08:45:28
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Hi, I'm 20 years old and I caught my mom having an affair in August. It was probably the most devastating thing I ever uncovered. I accidentally came across her and his emails and the feelings she expressed seemed a lot like what you're saying now. In fact, the situations are so similar that your post made me cry. I know my words won't do justice, but I just really want to save your family, specifically your children, from what is currently going on in my life. The man my mom got involved with had the same situation in that he was divorced. I think you really need to know that every single day you sneak conversations and hold in these feelings, you are destroying your relationship with your kids. It isn't right to be lying to everyone and when I found out about my mom, I was (and still am) so disgusted with her and I am absolutely ashamed to be her daughter. I doubt you want your children to think of you like that.
My advice would be to immediately tell your wife what is going on with the other woman - be a man and own up to the situation. It will be hard, but trust me, your honesty will help in the long run. Perhaps then you and your wife can get some kind of counseling or something or you can separate and you can start to pursue the other woman. But you CANNOT continue with both lives, especially if you want to ever have any relationship with your kids. My brother is 16 and he is even more disappointed with my mom. At least if you admit to what is going on, you can make an effort to save your marriage and it will mean that much more to your children if you do end up divorced. But please, for their sake, do not continue like this.
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Posted by anattempttolive
on 2008-01-13 22:17:55
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Everybody has answers when they don't feel it for themselves. I use to be judgemental. But now I know there are no easy answers when you find love you weren't looking for or never knew existed.
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Posted by HungryHeart
on 2008-01-14 00:39:11
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