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| Daily Mess - To Fight Back or Not to Fight |
(This is a new post, starts similar to a previous post)...Oprah inspired me .... she had an episode about feelings mothers are often ashamed to admit. So today I continue the journey of exploring uninhibited feelings. Today, I was feeling ashamed for not having socialized my child enough until now.
He's almost 4 years old and has never been in daycare. I don't go to church and I don't have many friends or family with little kids nearby. So my child's social interactions are limited to mom, dad, baby sister (only a few weeks old) and strangers we encounter while running errands.
So today I tried to branch out and met up with a mom with two kids with whom we share a mutual friend (who has no children yet). It became apparent very quickly that we have very different parenting styles!
My son complained to me that someone pushed him and my new acquintance-mom-friend proceeded to tell my son that he should push the other kid back. A few minutes later, her own son was pushed down by another boy and she was ready to fight the parent, if only she could have seen which boy pushed her son.
I understand why some parents choose to teach defensive behaviors to their kids but I choose not to. However, I didn't feel confident enough to interfere while my child was being given advice that I did not agree with ... so does that make me a pushover? I waited until a later instance occured and then privately told my son not to push others, that I didn't think it was polite. Am I totally in the wrong? Am I raising a child that will be easily bullied? Am I raising a pushover? Where's the right balance in all this?
I'm guessing no one has the 'right' answer so I'll take solace and find peace in my method for now. As he gets older, I'm sure my thoughts and advice will change.
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Posted by atcrossroads on 2009-08-10 19:53:38 | Rating: | Views: 40
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