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Today’s Love
As I sit on the train facing my grandfather while I have John Legend’s song ‘set me free’ flowing its smooth melody into my right ear, I find myself thinking about today’s love.
And I realize, today’s idea of love is a diminished version of the true romance and magic that is falling in love.
My Nan and pop met dancing. My pop pursued my Nan… and went dancing every night. Keep in mind my Nan and pop are 81 this year, and dating was completely different back then. Males had to ‘court’ the females, go out of their way to make themselves apart of a girl’s life… if my pop wanted to visit my Nan, he was only aloud to sit in the living room… with all doors open and my nan's father pacing back and forth watching them.
Males actually got off their asses and went out of their way to get the girl.
My Nan and pop were married just before his 22nd birthday and will be celebrating their 60th wedding anniversary next year. And are happily married and are still very much in love. My pop still goes out of his way to ensure his wife’s happiness.
What is happening to love?? Or should I say, what has happened to love??
Today it’s all about the sweet sms’ we get from the cute boy who got our number that night at the club. And it seems the only way we’re to know he’s thinking about us is if he dares to mention us in his face book status, and we’ll know he’s serious about us when he takes the 21st century plunge and declares his feeling for you… he changes his face book status from ‘single’ to ‘in a relationship’.
**Feel the sarcasm**
Yes, with today’s society it is impossible to go back to the way it used to be, back when my pop first met my Nan and went out of his way to a part of my Nan’s life.
And yes things had begun to change when my parents first met…
But you know who hadn’t changed….?
My dad still went above and beyond to get my mum to go out with him. Even when she was dating and living with another guy…he was still showing up to places he knew she’d be, and show up at her place ‘looking for her boyfriend’ knowing real well that his mate, her boyfriend wasn’t home.
Sure, when I first heard the story of how my dad pursued my mum, I was like “stalking was the way to my mum’s heart??” but now I see, it was just my dad’s way of making his intentions and feelings known. He wanted the girl, he wanted my mum, and he went out of his way to get her.
But these days where has all the confidence in males gone?? Like seriously, show me a guy who will go out of his way to see you; who will call you on your bullshit; who will do the little (or big) things to show he cares…even though we’ll be annoyed when we first find out; someone who will fight for my attention and fight for my heart… someone who isn’t afraid to show you just how much you mean to them… after all – actions speak louder than words.
Don’t take this to mean that we’re all princesses and expect you to bow down to us and give us everything you think we want… girls like that gives me the shits.
I just want a guy who will send me a love letter unexpected, or a card with a little note…I don’t even expect the flowers that are expected to go with; a guy who will make me a mix cd; a guy who will show up and give me cuddles after a bad day…or just because; a guy who isn’t afraid to ask the parents’ permission to take me out for the night – ok now I’m getting carried away LOL
I just want to know what happened to the little things?? What happened to the days when we females were shown appreciation unexpectedly??
Not all modern day guys are as lazy as I make them seem…I know a couple of amazing guys who go above and beyond for the girl in their lives…
Just get off your asses and show that girl just how much she means to you… before she walks away and gets swept off her feet by someone else who will!
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