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| Play the Males Game |
i believe we have instincts about people, whether they’re good or bad – we should always trust our instincts.
You may meet someone and feel straight away that they are not to be trusted. or you may feel the opposite.
we’re forever meeting new people, but have you ever stopped to notice that you make more of an effort to know some of them – more than others? have you ever wondered why?
i believe it comes down to our instincts. we meet people in many different ways – bump into them on the streets (literally); a friend introduces you; you meet at a mutual interest event (such as a concert); you meet randomly in a chat room; or the latest and seemingly most popular these days – facebook. some of these people who come in and evidentally out of lives – create such an impact on you that is so unfamiliar that we tend to force ourselves to stop and back off, instead of going with our instincts – and going with the flow. like i have said, time and time again – who cares if you get hurt? isnt that the beauty of living? i have recently gone through one of the hardest things i thought id ever have to deal with at this point in my life, but now i realise – its just the beginning. im going to get my heart broken time and time again, and no doubt i’m going to break hearts too.
but thats all a part of life – right? dont act like you dont agree- or you’ve never thought about it. we all have.
as we all begin to open our hearts back up just as its been repaired from the last fracture, we are opening ourselves up to the risk of another fracture that could result in a serious break. Each fracture feels like a break in the moment. and then as we begin to mend our bruised and wounded hearts and selves – we realise – it really wasn’t that bad. cos we’re still standing. so maybe it was just a small fracture in this game of breaks?
so, why is it we feel that in order to know someone – or like them – it comes down to knowing them in person?
its well known that everyone is more them selves online when they’re safe in their own comfort zone and can easily….exit! – if needed.
i know when i meet someone online, i am me – completely. and if they don’t like or respect who i am and what i stand for – then HELLO DELETE KEY!!!
where as when i meet someone face-to-face…im slightly more reserved. and therefore – struggle with trust and whether or not this cute guy infront of me – is going to like who i am. therefore, i freeze.
you know those guys who are ridiculously good-looking, and hello – most of them know it! – when these ridiculously good looking guys make eye contact with you – the butterflies begin, and then the shaking starts…and then – GOOD BYE WORDS THAT MAKE SENSE!
we all go through it. where as, when you embrace talking to a mate of someone you know, or someone who goes out of their way to suss out your profile and photos – and still wants to talk to you…. you are you – you have nothing to hide. cos you dont have to see them – ever. :)
When i got my heart…. stepped on – even more by Trent, i did something that was probably silly in other peoples eyes – but it felt right in the moment for me – i called my ex. and he came to the goldcoast to be with me – cos he knew i needed someone – well … wanted ;) someone. so he came.
and then went home the next day – havent seen him since – which suits me, cos i dont want to go backwards. so its all good.
but then a week later, the guy i met on my girls night out wanted to come around so, i was like sure thing. LOL
and i decided – since trent wants to do the friends thing..i wont lie. so when he asked me what i have planned for the night, i was like “oh, that guy i met on the girls night out might be coming over” and he was like “weren’t you with Elwyn last weeked” and i simply replied “yeh – whats ur point?”
he responded with “i dont know how you girls can do that!”
i had to giggle – and defended myself… “do what?” i said “play the males game??”
he was stumped.
probably goes he knows its true- and that us females know how to play the males game to a higher level, than males do.
and it causes a bit of bruising to the male ego. but whatever. why should males be able to see many women in one go, and expect us to be okay with it? and yet we’re expected to be okay with being just one of his girls.
Fuck that!!!
i say – play the males game. but twork it your advantage.
believe me – its suiting me just fine. and believe it or not – it has its advantages for those in “complicated” relationships. :):)
((a girl cant always give away her secrets....so feel free to email me - will be happy to ... elaborate on the games us girls have a right to play ... asweettooth4fantasy@hotmail.com.... and granted - not all men play this game...just majority :) ))
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